This guy sounds like a total player you know. Years ago, in college, my H had a friend who was NOT a good looking guy - he was short and skinny and didn't have nice facial features - big nose, etc. But he managed to get girls into bed so easy it was ridiculous - over and over again he would get the good looking girl in bed and then dump her. His technique was to insult her and/or ignore her, and you'd be AMAZED at how that worked - I could never understand it. It seemed to work especially well on the good looking confident girl. Anyway this guy sound a little like him - I mean - insulting your boobs??? Please!
If you really want to end it once and for all - and you are SURE of that - we can offer you some support. But most of us here will commiserate with you more than actually give you the tools to stay N/C with this guy. EAS (ending an affair support) is more geared to really get you through each day of N/C. You might want to at least lurk over there and see if it might be for you - also read the "healing library" - there's a wealth of information there!
Good luck sweetie. It will be hard but SO worth getting this loser out of your life!
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You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
He doesn't seem very respectful to you. I also agree that since you both are physically together that he should tell you if he's intimate with other females. I'm not sure if that will bother you or not but it seems like you can do bad all by yourself. I know how you feel about the addiction feeling. I can't seem to let my AP go either but he makes me feel good and always wanted.
Maybe you should go NC with him and wish you all the strength and wisdom to do so. I know how hard it is but you deserve to be made feel better not like this....
Hi confusedazedgal! Welcome to MAS.
This guy sounds like a total player you know. Years ago, in college, my H had a friend who was NOT a good looking guy - he was short and skinny and didn't have nice facial features - big nose, etc. But he managed to get girls into bed so easy it was ridiculous - over and over again he would get the good looking girl in bed and then dump her. His technique was to insult her and/or ignore her, and you'd be AMAZED at how that worked - I could never understand it. It seemed to work especially well on the good looking confident girl. Anyway this guy sound a little like him - I mean - insulting your boobs??? Please!
If you really want to end it once and for all - and you are SURE of that - we can offer you some support. But most of us here will commiserate with you more than actually give you the tools to stay N/C with this guy. EAS (ending an affair support) is more geared to really get you through each day of N/C. You might want to at least lurk over there and see if it might be for you - also read the "healing library" - there's a wealth of information there!
Good luck sweetie. It will be hard but SO worth getting this loser out of your life!
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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He doesn't seem very respectful to you. I also agree that since you both are physically together that he should tell you if he's intimate with other females. I'm not sure if that will bother you or not but it seems like you can do bad all by yourself. I know how you feel about the addiction feeling. I can't seem to let my AP go either but he makes me feel good and always wanted.
Maybe you should go NC with him and wish you all the strength and wisdom to do so. I know how hard it is but you deserve to be made feel better not like this....
Much peace & Love,
Rayne
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