So very sad today.

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Registered: 10-06-2003
So very sad today.
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Fri, 10-17-2003 - 5:31pm
I am so very sad today. I met up w/mm this morning and had an incredible time. It was something really different.

We part ways but continue to talk on the phone off and on all morning and afternoon. Things are really good....

We start talking about sex...and he asks, well do you and your h do that...im like no...and then i ask, well do you do what we do with w? And he hesitates and says well no not really but we do do stuff..

Why do i even ask if i don't want to hear the answer? I was so bummed after that and ended up letting a perfect day go to ruins. I didn't let him on to me being upset...i have no right to. But it just gets to me and i know it shouldn't but i can help it.

Can anyone cheer me up today?

so sad

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Registered: 10-16-2003
Fri, 10-17-2003 - 6:49pm
never ever go there.i too test myself to see how much i can take & it is the worst place to be...& THEN to pretend you're not upset!i remember when om told me what he does w/ fiancee was not my bussiness.no matter WHERE you go in spouse territory..it's gonna hurt.so...think of yourself as fantasy woman & stay away from what goes on at home.no matter what we think we can handle...it just aint so.
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Registered: 06-24-2003
Sat, 10-18-2003 - 7:21am

Hi Silver,


While MM and I do go there as it doesn't bother either of us... and I said to him many a time that I'm glad we are comfortable and don't get jealous about it... but regardless of that... the way I look at things... MM and I have different relationships with our partners than we do with each other... and I just remember what I do give to MM and what keeps him coming back and that always makes me grin.


It's not much... but think of

Sweet
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Registered: 09-17-2003
Sat, 10-18-2003 - 11:00am
Ok look you---- I think you know by now that the man is going to be HONEST and tell you what he and the W do, YOU HAVE GOT TO STOP SETTING YOURSELF UP FOR THIS!!! Honey, you know that you don't want to know what they do-- what good does it do for you??? NONE. I hate to see you get so sad. I'm worried about you now because I think you are getting too close to that side of his life and that's when it gets a little messy. Maybe I'm just going overboard. I don't know. I just wish you'd stop talking about her with him. Remember that YOU are important and you and her are two different people. There is only one you.

Please cheer up friend, you just have stop inquiring about her. The less you know, the better off you are. Email me if you need to. By the way, sorry I haven't replied to you, I've just been swamped at work and I've got vulchers hanging over me all the time and I really don't think they need to know about my little life, know what I mean??? But I'm here on Saturdays (ughhhhhhhhhh) all day til 3.