So very sad tonight

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Registered: 07-13-2010
So very sad tonight
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Wed, 07-21-2010 - 12:52am

Well the time has come.

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Registered: 03-26-2010
Wed, 07-21-2010 - 1:47am

Hugs.

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Registered: 03-30-2010
Wed, 07-21-2010 - 11:28am

Hi Is-love-enough,


I feel for you and hope that as the days go by that you gain wisdom & strength to get pass this. It's such a hurtful feeling but I think going NC will give you both the time to reflect on yourselves and hopefully heal from this A. You never know what the future holds but take this time to do the things that you enjoy, a sport, hobby, gym, go out with girlfriends. Try to keep busy and distract yourself. In the beginning its going tobe tough but you'll get through it, one hour at a time.


 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 03-29-2010
Wed, 07-21-2010 - 11:38am

I'm so sorry for your pain. You can get support here too. EAS is wonderful, but there are some who don't fit into the niche they have there. They definitely wouldn't agree (I don't think) with you hoping to end up with your AP at a future time, both of you free. I recommend that you read the "healing library" over there even if you don't post. Some of it will help you, some won't fit - take what you need and leave the rest. There is also "after the affair" (AAS). There have been some others like you, who didn't feel like they "fit" at EAS, go over there. There are all sort of situations there - RL couple who started out as APs, wayward spouses who are rebuilding, and people like you who have ended their As but don't feel like they "fit" at EAS.

Many (((HUGS))) to help you get through this, is_love_enough... ♥

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Wed, 07-21-2010 - 12:02pm

Many ((((hugs)))) to you!

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Thu, 07-22-2010 - 12:42am
Thanks so much for the hugs and good ideas and thoughts.
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Thu, 07-22-2010 - 7:17am
Thank you for that is-love-enough! It is appreciated. ☺ ♥

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Thu, 07-22-2010 - 3:27pm

Just wanted to send you some cyber ((HUGS)). Your post brought tears to my eyes...there have been no D-Days in my A, but we did try to mutually end several months ago. Like you, I didn't fit over on EAS...I wasn't angry, and my AP is also a good man who has always treated me well. I understand COMPLETELY.


It sounds like you two know what you have to do. Please come here any time you need us to hold your hand...it's going to be HARD...I know you know that... **tears**....I just KNOW exactly where you are :(

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Thu, 07-22-2010 - 3:36pm
Thank you hiskimber...your response brought tears to my eyes too...which isn't difficult these days!!
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Thu, 07-22-2010 - 4:41pm

I hesitate to tell you, but no, we didn't keep it ended. That's not going to help you any, but my story is all over the place here, so you'd see it :)


We tried to end b/c we just got too emotionally attached and it was HE!!...just both of us wanting something that couldn't be. Long story short...both committed to keeping our families intact...neither of us sought an affair, and while I'll never say "it just happened" because I knew darn well where it was headed, it was a pull like I've never experienced and quite frankly I didn't want to fight it.


We ended and both of us went into counseling separately. He

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Fri, 07-23-2010 - 2:14pm

Wow.

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