Some thoughts and some questions....

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-09-2004
Some thoughts and some questions....
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Mon, 04-05-2004 - 11:30am
Why is that it is so hard to find someone that you really can trust? I don't mean that men/women in affairs cannot be trusted - for I am myself in one. I consider myself trust worthy - I usually keep promises to do things, or not to do certain things in a relationship (open or closed). I don't think being chivalrous and honest doesn't belong in an A. Am I wrong? Am I insane? Or am I expecting way too much here as one poster suggested before to expect sane and sensibles things from people in an affair?? I have been thinking about certain things that have happened to me in the past and in the presnt and I cannot stop thinking about this topic. Thanks if you care to reply to this post..
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-16-2004
Mon, 04-05-2004 - 11:47am
I understand where you are coming from. I fight this battle within myself all the time. We expect our OM/MM to be completely honest and forthcoming with us, but we are in an A. These men (and us as well) are all lying to ourselves and to our spouses. I'm guilty of this myself. But, ironically, I consider myself honest. I am very open with everything with my MM. We've both shared a TON of personal information (information that could be detremental to him if I were the vindictive type should we ever break up). I told him and I've told myself that regardless of what happens between us, that he can trust me to not go to his W (separated/divorced..whatever their status may be at the time). But, with any R, there has to be some sense of truth and honesty. What a tangled web we weave....
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-19-2003
Mon, 04-05-2004 - 4:39pm
Damn river, you just read my thoughts. I am also sometimes very wary of what the MM says to be because ours for the most part is an online affair. For I know he could have other other women. hee hee. But you know what, I somehow trust him not to do any such crazy thing. Don't ask me why - its my intuition and has never let me down until now. Its weird, but I bet you all know I am crazy!!!!