Since someone asked????

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Registered: 09-11-2008
Since someone asked????
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Sat, 09-13-2008 - 12:41am

Here is my story..

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Registered: 10-10-2006
Sat, 09-13-2008 - 4:19pm
Hello. I didn't read your other post, but it sounds like you are saying that you feel pressured by your AP to leave your H for him. Is that right?Have you two had discussions about it before? Or is this something he just came up with? You have to respect that he wants more, and that he is being honest with you about that. I also can see where that would feel like him puching you to do something you aren't ready for, and that you might never be ready for. Be careful that he doesn't tell your H in an effort to push you into making a decision .If you need time to think about it, ask him for that. Set a deadline. If you already know that you want to stay M, your only choice is to tell him and end the A.
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Registered: 04-05-2007
Sat, 09-13-2008 - 4:20pm

That's weird. They thought you were making up having an affair? For what purpose??

Anyway, it doesn't sound like either one of your guys is a prize. LOL! Maybe you should think about leaving your H for YOU, for yourself, and ending it with your AP too? Your boys will adjust to living in a single parent household and visiting their adored dad. The whole divorce process is easier with no affair hiding in the wings, why not go that route?

And I don't think the AP is someone you want involved with your kids at ALL, so it's better to break it off from him before leaving your H. Let him think he broke it off with you - he said he'd leave if you don't leave your H, so just don't leave until he's out of your life and away from any knowledge about you!

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Registered: 10-03-2007
Sat, 09-13-2008 - 5:09pm

your AP is putting pressure on you to leave H but is not willing to leave his LIGF ? What is his plan after you leave your H? nothing.just have double sex life with no obligation or responsibility towards either of you.

He isnt worth having an A with , leave alone a real relationship.

One must choose a sensible AP ( look who's talking ! i've had the worse AP anyone has ever had.) or dump them sooner you realize what they are made of.

Its better you know what he is wanting than first D and then realizing what you have done.good for you.