Someone called his WIFE ! ! !

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Registered: 06-15-2003
Someone called his WIFE ! ! !
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Thu, 10-02-2003 - 3:29pm




someone called MM house, talking to his preg. wife telling her briefly about me,

worst of all stating the area I do live in. This way making sure continuing to

see me would be a very high risk to take, since I live in a smaller town and

several work collegues live also close by.

What I just ask myself, why would anyone make such a call. Knowing

how so many people would get hurt by it? The W. , me and him.

Why not knowing the circumstances would anyone be so cruel?

It is just not fair, we always said should we decide to end it, we were going

to stay close friends, after all we spend the last two years somewhat

as part of each others lives....but with the w. now knowing were I live, I mean

gee just might as well give her my address....we will just have to stay phone buddies.

Worst of all I believe a former so called best girlfriend, who is the only one

who knew about it may have been the one who called, since we had quite a lot

of differences, and since she recently got totally dumped from her MM, without

any further contact, and she is the kind of person, who loves to see you down with

her. Gee, you see why I stopped being her friend....anyhow....I wish I would have

never confined in her to begin with , the crummy friendship I had from her in return

was not worth loosing MM over this...who now is pretty much in an uproar

and came to the conclusion, things to to complicated so lets just stay friends.

So I read before when things like this happen the other women is always the

one loosing, and you knwo what....it is true and it hurts so much .......

Wishing you all out there happiness, enjoy the moment as you never

know when it will be taken away from you .......a day , a week, a month

a year from now...by just a single 25 cent phonecall by an obviously

@#$#%%% cruel, vicious person.

In case anyone lurking out there and trying to bash anyone in an affair

I learned to definately never judge, as I was the wife for many years, thinking

this would never happen and how could this other women take my husband etc.

No I had found myself on the other end for the past two years....you never know

who will walk in your life....one day and take your heart by storm. It happened

to me .....and even that it did not have a happy ending , I don;t regret a minute of him having walked into my life.................

Every person, every situation is different.



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Registered: 09-19-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 3:42pm
The secret to an affair is to keep it a secret, i.e., you don't tell anyone either! Get it? dream/angel
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Registered: 09-04-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 5:14pm
I just wondered angel, have you told no one about what's going on? I doubt that there are too many all though a few, that never ever tell anyone. I could not keep it all inside without ever letting anyone know. That would be unbearable. You just have to be careful who you choose to confide in. Sometimes it turns out to be the wrong person. I've been there. I told alot to a girl who turned out to be not trustworthy. Now I've learned to only tell people whom I know without a doubt that they would never do anything to hurt me. Very few, but they are there. And no matter what, no matter who you do or don't tell, there is always people who see a look or a touch and pick up on what they think you are doing. So all you can do in the end is deny deny deny! That's my view, that unless they outright catch me in the actual act, I won't admit a damn thing. If they don't believe it, there's nothing more I can do, but I will not admit to it.

So anyhow, buttercup, I'm really sorry that your A had to go back to just friends. Maybe that won't last forever. But I feel for you & now you just know to be a little more picky on who you trust to that extent. I've been there, trusting someone I shouldn't and had to stay friends just so they wouldn't rat me out or cause problems. Sucks to be in that situation. Hope you are doing ok. Goodluck, hugs, Jdreamer96