someone please tell me what i'm doing!

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Registered: 06-17-2007
someone please tell me what i'm doing!
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Wed, 05-20-2009 - 7:46pm
I'm 23, my husband is 34. We have an 18mos daughter.
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Registered: 06-12-2007
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 9:31pm

If you really want to save your marriage then end the affair before it goes any deeper. It doesn't matter why you married your husband , or the fact that you are 23 and he is 34. The reason it does not matter is because you were of age when you picked to marry him and have sex with him as well. So throw that away. Lets get down to the real problem.


You are young and you might be feeling like you didn't really get a chance to live life before you married. Perhaps you feel a bit cheated. Yet...I am sure there had to be good things about your husband or else you would have ran away from him at the church. Now if you really want to end things before it hurts your husband stop talking to the OM. Think about the whole picture. Yourself, child, and your spouse are the only people who you need to be true to.....not forgetting God. You are at a early stage in marriage, so at times things might seem a little bumpy. If you have a affair with this person you will feel so bad and you will beat yourself up about it for a long time. I hope you take the smart way out and not the one that leads you to pain.


It is never too late to say we have to end this.

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Registered: 08-19-2008
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 9:34pm

>>>"Why am I doing this??? I love my husband. "<<<

Good question. And something you need to find out before you ruin your family. If you really love your H, then discuss with him what you feel is missing in your R now. Ask for marriage counseling if you have to. You owe it to everyone (husband and kid) to exhaust all possibilities in saving your family from turmoil and pain. Otherwise, if you're really not happy, then let your H go so he can find someone who'll really love only him.

Be careful that you're not throwing your M away for a fling with someone who may just want to have fun on the side though.

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