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| Fri, 01-09-2004 - 12:59pm |
Hi Everyone,
I have been reading the message board and felt I have the need to talk.
I have been unhappliy married for 19 year to an abusive drunk. He put me down constantly and made me feel like a prisoner. I am now seperated and getting divorced.
I started having an affair with a MM about 1-1/2 years ago. He was my friend for many years. We used to talk about our unhappy relationships together and I guess we felt comfort in our friendship. One day at a golf outting he dared me to kiss him. That's all it took. I was puddy in his arms. We had an evening of passion that I hadn't felt in years. He said all the right things to me about my own happiness. How I was in charge of my own destiny and happiness. I could change my future if I really wanted to. He was right, I started a new diet and exercise program the next day. I lost 60 pounds due to his kind words and friendship. I now feel great about my looks for the first time in many years. Now I am in love with this man who is commited to his children and wife. I know he is not happily married because of our previous friendship. But I'm now like an addict. Thinking of him constantly and how great he makes me feel. I know it is wrong but I can't stop. I like to hear from someone else in the same boat. I'd like to hear how you feel. Thanks for your support.
I have been reading the message board and felt I have the need to talk.
I have been unhappliy married for 19 year to an abusive drunk. He put me down constantly and made me feel like a prisoner. I am now seperated and getting divorced.
I started having an affair with a MM about 1-1/2 years ago. He was my friend for many years. We used to talk about our unhappy relationships together and I guess we felt comfort in our friendship. One day at a golf outting he dared me to kiss him. That's all it took. I was puddy in his arms. We had an evening of passion that I hadn't felt in years. He said all the right things to me about my own happiness. How I was in charge of my own destiny and happiness. I could change my future if I really wanted to. He was right, I started a new diet and exercise program the next day. I lost 60 pounds due to his kind words and friendship. I now feel great about my looks for the first time in many years. Now I am in love with this man who is commited to his children and wife. I know he is not happily married because of our previous friendship. But I'm now like an addict. Thinking of him constantly and how great he makes me feel. I know it is wrong but I can't stop. I like to hear from someone else in the same boat. I'd like to hear how you feel. Thanks for your support.

honey, an A is just that, an A. not a marriage, just for fun, on the side, extra. if you all the sudden change up the "rules," you have to expect the other person will not be happy with you!
has your MM expressed any desire to move forward with a permanent R with you? it doesn't sound like it from your post - "he's committed to his children and wife." so the question becomes, what do you want? for you?? now that you're free to steer your own boat and make your own destiny, do you want to wait around for the precious little free time and attention MM can give you, or do you want to move on with your life and actually experience the world of "dating." if you stay in your R with MM, it will be a rather lonely life. your MM gave you the confidence to feel good about yourself and that's great. keep MM as a friend, but look beyond him for your happiness.
the world's your oyster girl! find that pearl!!
gurl
Appreciate the personal empowerment and except and cherish the relationship that you have with your MM. You may want to breeze through the rules of EMA to help to keep you in focus of what is expected in an EMA...
Best of luck to you and again, Im glad you decided to join us...
cl-liberalgirl
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Good for you getting out of an abusive situation is hard.
You have shaped up your body now it is time to do it to the rest of your life.
It is the feelings that you are ADDICTED TO NOT SO MUCH THE MM.
You listen to Gurl she knows what she is takeing about
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Dusty
Dusty