I ended it with AP today are.
Thank you ladies!
Nobody knows better about what's going on in their marriage except for them. Who was that person anyways ?
Like I said in my other thread, I also thought that they are happy and love each other, but apparently, things have changed. I suggested to break up, so he could work on it, but he refused. I would think that if I broke up with him, he would be suffering because of the break up and I don't think that this in itself gives someone motivation to work on the marriage, quiet the opposite. Anyhow, working on a marriage is a decision that should come from him, not from us.
Hugs to you !
Big hugs Kittery!
You are doing a very brave and difficult thing! It's going to be so hard to still see him and not cross those boundaries. Yes, I have no doubts that an A can ruin even the best of marriages. In the past month my AP had a terrible D-day. She found everything. Things that must have really really hurt. They are having one heck of a rough time right now. Really bad. I don't know whats to become of them; I guess time will tell. I know how hard it is, but count your lucky stars that there was no D-day! Hope you are doing well :)
thank you again. The reality is that I did indeed disturbed their marriage. It is true he is the responsible for it, but I helped. I know if it hadn't been me, it would have been someone else, but I own my part.
I think the other part that I am feeling is that I still want him. I am jealous that she has him, though I don't want him. That he loves her. That only she can make him happy. That they are loving towards each other.
About D days, I caught my husband cheating twice and though at the beginning I was like the wife from thesmallthings' AP, I soon realized that is not a life I want to live. I believe that if my partner wants to cheat, I will not keep him from doing it. I refuse to be a prison guard. IDK where my life is going. IDK what I want. However, I know that I REALLY want him in my life, but I also know that doing so hurts another woman.
I am also trying to figure out what is my future. Do I deserve to be loved after hurting so many others?
I am just hoping he respects the email, doesn't question it, hates me and moves on.