sometimes we accept to much pain!

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Registered: 03-05-2004
sometimes we accept to much pain!
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Wed, 04-14-2004 - 4:10pm
I think sometimes we let our men slide to much and don't make them face their reality! They would not be in this relationship if they were happy with their life the way it is and it seems to me people should go after what they want in life! I for one am sick of all the lies and excuses . People deal with the truth alot better than other people think! I am 44 and a grandmother of 5 I don't figure I have alot of time left to be waisting on unhappiness. Everyone at work used to call me sunshine ! They actually seemed mad because I was so happy. I can't do this unhappiness thing much longer. Just needed to vent that . Thanks!

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Registered: 03-10-2004
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 4:21pm
Trouble, I've been following your posts a bit, and I hope that you'll take this with the care that's behind it. Something is definitely up with your MM, but that doesn't excuse this long period of NC. If he truly loves you, he wouldn't ignore you. Please take care of yourself and try to heal from this experience. I feel so bad for you with the pain that you're in - don't give him that control. If he comes back, well, then you have some things to deal with; if he doesn't you may be better off.

((((((Trouble)))))))

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 4:28pm
Sorry honey, you are going through so much trouble. I just got back from a crazy afteroon at work. Got waylaid after lunch. Talk to you all later...
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Wed, 04-14-2004 - 4:34pm


Did she just say she go laid after lunch???

LOL j/k

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2003
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 4:50pm
I wish. :-) It was all work related. *grin*
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-05-2004
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 5:09pm
Guess no one here understands me either so won't bother you anymore! Hope all your dreams come true.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2003
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 5:14pm
What is it honey? I don't understand.. Did I say something to hurt you. If I did I am sorry.
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Registered: 10-13-2003
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 5:21pm

(((Trouble))) I don't know what more you want from us.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2003
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 5:42pm
No Juliet, you didn't say anything wrong. How are you doing, hon? Haven't talked to you lately.

Trouble, please try to realize one very simple but very important thing - we cannot "make" anyone do anything that they don't want to do. Something is definitely up with this man but whatever it is he chose not to be in contact with you for the time being. Since I, myself, can't handle being in NC st all I understand what you are going through and I most certainly sympathize. But no matter how much you want him to call - he has to want it too and do it at his own free will. Sorry, I wish I could say something more positive.

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Thu, 04-15-2004 - 10:28am
Trouble, hope you are doing OK today. Sometime we do says things when are under stress that we don't mean to. Keep updating us on your situation. I for one will not get bored of them. More poofs coming you way. (((HUGS))))))))
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Registered: 07-24-2003
Thu, 04-15-2004 - 10:49am
Trouble, please don't think that what I am about to say means that I don't understand your situation or don't care. I do. It's heart wrenching to see you go through this torment. I just want you to please be realistic. I don't doubt that you love him. But love alone is not a relationship make. It's a major but not the only factor. There is so much more - compatibility, respect, same values, priorities and, most importantly - mutual desire and readiness to be in this relationship. My SO and myself didn't work out the first time around because at that point in time I was ready to commit and she wasn't. We loved each other but we weren't on the same page. Simple as that. It took almost two years of being apart and miserable to finally get to where both of us are now sure we want to be - together. Please understand that just because we want someone to be with us doesn't mean that they will. They have to want that too. Whatever your man is going through right now he has chosen not to include you in it. Accept it. Give it time and let him come to you on his own. He might be back or he might not and no amount of love that you have for him will "make" him come back if he decides not to. You will have to accept that as well.

I wish you strength, hon, with all my heart.

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