I was not happy in my A. I was always waiting and waiting for happiness to come, but it would never come. Some rare moments were blissful, but then as Lisa said, you have to watch his backside and would be crushed. My A was only a few months long, so if even the best times were not actually good, I can imagine how ugly it becomes down the road. I'm done with it:)
I have never felt so confused and the lows are unbelievable. I have rarely felt so miserable in my life. And that comes from AP having gone MIA a few times.
The highs are incredible and I can stay on them for days or weeks now, but I know this isn't how most A's go. I put myself totally in the moment when we get together and carefully recall it when I can't see him. I plan for the next visit to distract myself. The uncertainty of an A is a killer. I wouldn't ever take this path again.
The secret to having a happy A is : keep your expectations realistic! very difficult to do but if /when you reach that stage,only then you can be happy ,which is the sole purpose of an A in the first place! Usually one of the participants starts wanting more which creates all the problems.Again, keep expectations low,all will fall in place.BUT easier said than done.
Sometimes I'm happy about it.
during my affair i felt phenomenal!
I was not happy in my A. I was always waiting and waiting for happiness to come, but it would never come. Some rare moments were blissful, but then as Lisa said, you have to watch his backside and would be crushed. My A was only a few months long, so if even the best times were not actually good, I can imagine how ugly it becomes down the road.
I'm done with it:)
Angry Vivacious
It is a false sense of happiness and very temporary.
I have never felt so confused and the lows are unbelievable. I have rarely felt so miserable in my life. And that comes from AP having gone MIA a few times.
The highs are incredible and I can stay on them for days or weeks now, but I know this isn't how most A's go. I put myself totally in the moment when we get together and carefully recall it when I can't see him. I plan for the next visit to distract myself. The uncertainty of an A is a killer. I wouldn't ever take this path again.
Pisces
Edited 11/23/2008 8:59 pm ET by pisces2008
You have gotten several responses from those that seem to be done with their A's and perhaps they didn't end so well.
I had an A many years back and while it hurt like crazy to end it, we have managed to stay in touch and remain friends.