sorry wasn't crush he want to make love

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Registered: 04-15-2003
sorry wasn't crush he want to make love
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Fri, 11-21-2003 - 2:27pm
few years ago my spercila friend want to make love to me but l said no trying to do right thing. so girls maybe we didn't have real affair but we did soemthings that we didn't want anyone see.this my life l know what really happen between us.if this crush why would hold me and love me touch my body. my friend is feeling alot guilt rigth now.kimmy
kimmy
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Registered: 09-19-2003
Fri, 11-21-2003 - 2:55pm
Kim how long ago did this happen? If its longer then a few years ago then you need to move on because he obviously has. I never said he had a crush on you, but it sounds like you still have one for him. I do not doubt that you still care for this man and have feelings but you need to push these feelings away and move on. You are only hurting yourself here. At this rate you will be 60 years old and still pinning for a guy you will never have. How many years have you been waiting and wanting this guy? There must be something you can do, I know you have your own business, which is wonderful. You get to travel and vacation with family outside of the US, another wonderful thing. There must be times and ways you can meet other men, your own age. Volunteer at hospitals, or libraries. Go to church and join different groups there. You just need to realize that "he" is not coming for you. He has a sick wife he needs to take care of (as he should be) and what you both felt "years" ago has since been forgotten. Please for your own sake look for some counsiling so that some one who is a proffessional can help you move on because it is obvious to me and others you can not do it alone. Heck you can never even move over to the "Ending" board because you refuse to face the truth. My words are not ment to hurt you, that was never my intersions. Please look for help from those who can relate and want to help you. This coming from the mother in me and my heart. I have been reading your posted for 2 years now and nothing has changed but your names. You know me by another name because I used to post here too, but I have since moved on. God Bless and Good Luck.

Shy

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Registered: 10-23-2003
Fri, 11-21-2003 - 2:59pm
Kimmy, Shy is right...you need to find a way to move forward in your life...pining isnt good for you emotionally, mentally or psychologically...I know because I did it to myself for way too many years...always looking for closure I would never get...you need to validate your self worth and shut that door tight...

cl-liberalgirl

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Registered: 09-19-2003
Fri, 11-21-2003 - 3:21pm
Thankyou for agreeing with me. I just feel I have sat here and read, and even chatted with Kim for so long and nothing has changed. It turns my stomach when I read how people continue to coddle and hug her. She needs to wake up, as harsh as that sounds and move forward or she will someday realize its too late. No attacking here,just wanting to help her. Thanks again Liberalgirl, for backing me up. I just question why Kim never answers the questions put before her. She has me worried.

Shy