Soul mates? Believe it or not?
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Soul mates? Believe it or not?
| Thu, 01-29-2004 - 10:50pm |
Hello,
I am here to get some guidance as well as to get some emotions off my chest. I am so thrilled to have found this board. Here's the story. Eight years ago I met a man in college and fell madly in love with him. We shared many common interests and our personalities meshed very well. However, he was involved with a woman with whom he had fathered a child at the age of 18. He did the noble thing and stuck it out with her. He and I lost contact and I proceded to complete my education, meet someone and get married (on the rebound, I would say). Fast forward eight years.. He lives about 600 miles away.. Neither of us is fullfilled in our marriages. Neither of us can say we are "in love" with our spouses, although we both have "love" for them, would never wish to hurt them. We started talking and emailing about three months ago. He says that not a day has gone by in those eight years that he didn't think of me. We have found many similarities in our lives, sometimes with the parallels being uncanny. We decided to meet in another city and test things out a bit. In all of my life I have never enjoyed any 72 hours better. We laughed, we cried, we did everything we both enjoy doing. I felt like everything in my life I had done with a blindfold on, and I was finally seeing the world with my eyes open... everything was amazing. There was not one dull moment. Not one uncomfortable moment. In the grand scheme of things, what we did together should have been just ordinary... I have done far more "exciting" things in my life... but with him, everything was enhanced. I have never experienced such pure joy and love.
I am here to get some guidance as well as to get some emotions off my chest. I am so thrilled to have found this board. Here's the story. Eight years ago I met a man in college and fell madly in love with him. We shared many common interests and our personalities meshed very well. However, he was involved with a woman with whom he had fathered a child at the age of 18. He did the noble thing and stuck it out with her. He and I lost contact and I proceded to complete my education, meet someone and get married (on the rebound, I would say). Fast forward eight years.. He lives about 600 miles away.. Neither of us is fullfilled in our marriages. Neither of us can say we are "in love" with our spouses, although we both have "love" for them, would never wish to hurt them. We started talking and emailing about three months ago. He says that not a day has gone by in those eight years that he didn't think of me. We have found many similarities in our lives, sometimes with the parallels being uncanny. We decided to meet in another city and test things out a bit. In all of my life I have never enjoyed any 72 hours better. We laughed, we cried, we did everything we both enjoy doing. I felt like everything in my life I had done with a blindfold on, and I was finally seeing the world with my eyes open... everything was amazing. There was not one dull moment. Not one uncomfortable moment. In the grand scheme of things, what we did together should have been just ordinary... I have done far more "exciting" things in my life... but with him, everything was enhanced. I have never experienced such pure joy and love.
We are talking about rebuilding our lives together. I want an honest opinion.. I know you're just getting the bare bones for facts here, but do you think that I am feeling this way just because it is novel, exciting, different? Or have I found my soul mate? I know I can't salvage my marriage and it will end either way, but what are these intense emotions I am feeling toward this other man? Please help..
lovinadc
