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For s.o.w/s.o.m- what type of mm/mw do..
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Fri, 01-01-2010 - 12:17am

what type of mm/mw do you have?

for those of you who answered my post about "what type of s.o.w. are you' this is for you. some years ago, i saw the following on another website for women. i will paraphrase what the person said. She said there were three types of cheaters.

1. the players (in my country they are also called womanisers.
2. those who have problems in their relationships and seek someone else.
3. those who met their soulmate after already committing to another relationship.

my x-mm was in Type 3. based on what he used to say, i know he was type 3.

what category is your mm/mw? if you are a married woman with a single man,you can answer too. if you are s.o.w./s.o.m. with a mm/mw you can answer. i suppose this will determine if your relationhip will survive. happy new year.

k2002
k2002
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Fri, 01-01-2010 - 12:19am
I am M and have a S AP and I feel like AP is my soulmate. I don't know that he feels the same but it's def. how I feel.
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Registered: 12-28-2009
Fri, 01-01-2010 - 8:48pm
My AP could be considered either a #1 or a #2. He definitely has a track record that would make it fair to call him a player, but in our case it was issues in his R that drove him to our A. He was honest about the fact that he has cheated on his GF before, but he tells me that I'm the first time it's ever been more than just a one time thing.
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Registered: 11-13-2008
Sat, 01-02-2010 - 9:46am
I am SW with MM and i guess he fits both 2 and 3.My AP was having problems in his M when we met.He was vulnerable and i gave a sympathetic ear as a friend.It all started innocently but here we are after 2 years! He is the best thing that has happened to me.I wear a ring given by him and he has taken off his given by the W.
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Registered: 08-27-2005
Sat, 01-02-2010 - 10:35pm
does he have any plans to leave the wife?
k2002
k2002
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Sun, 01-03-2010 - 12:11am

I spoke about a friend who is a single ow in my post entitled,"what type of so.w. are you?" (read it). i am not quite sure in which category to place her mm. well category 1, i think would match him cause he has had a number of emr over the years, the previous one before my friend lasted for a good time, it was a long term emr. so he might be a category 1, a player/womaniser (not sure) because players are usually men (or women for that matter) who are not serious about their relationships with anyone. they don't keep one woman/man. they get involved with many different women/men all at the same time. so depending on the definition, he might not be a category 1 cause his e.m.relationships are done ONE AT A TIME and not concurrently. not sure if he is a category 2 as i don't know if he had problems in his marriage. i will have to ask her. but i suppose that if he does not love his wife anymore and she does not love him, then that might indicate that there are problems.

i will have to find out from her.

k2002
k2002
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Sun, 01-03-2010 - 12:14am
if he is not a player then, he might be a serial cheater as he gets involved in one emr after the other.
k2002
k2002