"Special friend" or a "love"

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Registered: 10-24-2003
"Special friend" or a "love"
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Fri, 10-24-2003 - 3:59pm
Would you say your MM/OM is a "special friend" or "friend with benefits", someone you laugh with, enjoy a lunch here, dinner there, drinks after work...and sex/making love when the time is available, or is your MM/OM someone you love and think about throughout the day? Hoping that the two of you will end up together?



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Registered: 10-17-2003
Fri, 10-24-2003 - 5:17pm
My MM is a kinda both...we laugh together...we have dinners together...drinks during the week...we are intimate several times a week...but he is also someone I love very much and think about constantly during the day and on the nights I dont see him...I see him 3-5 times a week...BUT I dont see us ending up together...he made it clear from the beginning that he was not leaving his wife and actually, I dont think I would want him to...I accept how things are and one day life will lead our relationship in a different direction (when I meet someone I want to settle down with)...but for now I enjoy and cherish every minute I get to be with him.
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Registered: 07-09-2003
Fri, 10-24-2003 - 5:22pm
At the moment...I'd say my OM is more like a "special friend". At least I'm sure that's what HE would consider himself as. Although I do tend to think about throughout the whole day. I made the mistake of revealing my true feelings to him awhile back. Big mistake because that just pushed him further and further away. I backed off, gave him his *space*, and let him sort things out. After not seeing him for over a month, I met with him earlier this week and what started as an innocent walk in the woods, turned into a pretty hot and heavy makeout session. So I guess you could say that we're "friends with benefits"...I just wish those "benefits" came more often. =)

Bfly

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Registered: 09-07-2003
Fri, 10-24-2003 - 6:26pm
I HAVE TO SAY THAT MY MM AND I ARE VERY GOOD FRIENDS AND WORK TOGETHER ON A DAILY BASIS. NEITHER OF US HAVE ANY INTENTION OF LEAVING OUR H OR W AND I WOULD NEVER ASK THAT OF HIM. I GUESS "GOOD FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS" IS THE BEST WAY TO PUT IT. WE STEAL MOMENTS WHENEVER WE CAN AND YES I DO THINK ABOUT HIM ALOT, BUT TO SAY THAT I LOVE HIM WOULD BE TOO HARD FOR ME. I GUESS WE LIKE THINGS THE WAY WE ARE. WE HAVE TRIED TO END THINGS SEVERAL TIMES AND WE ALWAYS GET TOGETHER AGAIN SO I GUESS THERE HAS TO BE SOME SORT OF SOMETHING THERE. SORRY IF I AM RAMBLING BUT I HAVEN'T POSTED IN A WHILE AND IT FEELS GOOD TO GET THINGS OUT. I DO CARE ABOUT HIM, I WOULD DO ANYTHING FOR HIM, AND HAVE. I GUESS WHEN YOU HAVE THAT CONNECTION, YOU JUST DO WHAT FEELS RIGHT. I ALSO WISH THE STOLEN MOMENTS COULD BE MORE, BUT WE HAVE TO BE CAREFUL...OFFICES AND WALLS TALK!!!
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Registered: 06-24-2003
Fri, 10-24-2003 - 8:49pm

MM is my best friend... my lover... my confident.


I trust MM with my life and there is very little that I don't him... I've told him his friendship means a lot to me and that he is my best friend... I turn to him for advice on many occassions... and I sometimes wonder where I would be with out him.


I do love him... and while I have accepted that love... I'm still trying to understand it.


I don't think of MM and I of having a future together as a couple... but I never take him out of the picture and out of my life... I plan on keeping him there.


He is someone that I can laugh with, cry with... and can certainly have a lot of fun with in many different ways.


Simple put... He is by BEST FRIEND ever...

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Sat, 10-25-2003 - 6:59pm
Our relationship has progressed to point where we both can tell each other we love each other. MM has made it clear he is in love with me, considers me his best friend and would leave his marriage the second I told him I was his. But I've made it clear that I can't leave my H. We are definitely passionate about each other and he gives me many things I need but don't get in my own marriage. It's hard for me to consider us ever being truly together- he is 10 years older. We do fantasize a lot about what we would be like together as a true couple but the rational side of me says it won't happen. He's the romantic in the relationship- his favorite line is Never say never. But he also respects my wishes to not leave my H since we have a young child.

I'm curious, how long has everyone been in their relationship and when did you both finally tell each other you loved one another?
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Registered: 09-20-2003
Sat, 10-25-2003 - 8:37pm
MM is both. He is my best friend...someone I laugh with, share experiences with, confide in, and someone I can completely trust with who I am. I am also very much in love with MM, and have been for many years. Love is not about possession, and MM has a family that he goes home to every day. I would love to have a future with him, but that may not be what reality provides and I accept that. However, I will continue to enjoy what we have right now, knowing that no matter what the future holds, I will be left with some very wonderful memories.

Annika

Brightest Blessings, Annika