STBX and jail time,what about kids?
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| Fri, 04-09-2004 - 10:05am |
I don't know if some of you remember me. I have been gone off the board for a while. Some responses that I had gotten before were not the kind you really want to respond to. Briefly, MM and I are living together, have a son and he is almost finished with his divorce. They are actually waiting for the paternity results of the youngest child to be finished(b/c she kept stating that she wasn't his) and we share an 8mnth old son together. Well, back last year 6/03 his STBX assaulted me while I was pregnant and banged out my back car window. Since her arrest for that incident is was one thing after the other. My tires slashed, car keyed with nasty words, and yet another confrontation while she was on probation with a no contact order against her. She also filed a false report against me that got me arrested ,in front of my kids and put in jail over night. STILL, I have not retaliated against her physically ( suprisingly, but i could ring her neck) anyways, we have been in and out of court. My charges were dropped of course, but she plead not guilty to the second arrest. Well, I found out through the victims advocate that she was offered 1yr plus 60 days consecutive term in jail. She turned it down(i guess her public defender isn't smart). Now we will see if the case goes to trial. But, she is a fool, if we go to trial, and the she is found guilty again, she could do more than just the original term. She could be looking at 2-3 yrs. If she accepted the offer, she probably would have only been doing half her time. But, she is soooo worried about everyone else. Karma is a mother. I just hope her kids are all right and she isn't going off in a tyrant in front of them like she always does. She has put them through enough. After all that she has done to me and the destruction she has caused to my property,is it wrong that I don't feel any pity for her. Because I don't. She should have quit while she was ahead, then she decided to turn into my stalker.Now she is looking at jail time.
I told boyfriend last night, that once she is gone that the best thing to do is take physical custody of the old apartment where the children still are and stay there with them for a little while. It will be hard for them as it is, but I don't want them thrown from one situation to another. I know they will feel more comfortable there and it will be better for him to get the adjusted. This is the right thing to do right????? I don't see any other way, and I am secure with our relationship. any advice????

judgments. Do they have grandparents or relatives that can care for them while you sort out the mess?? I don't if they will be willing to stay with you and the MM. Just a thought.
Edited 4/9/2004 10:17 am ET ET by julietsfate
Daughters are usually very attached ot their moms and if it comes to choosing between their mom and dad, they usually go for the mom. Especially if they been told to think that a "bimbo took away their dad". That is why its best for other relatives (read neural) to take care of them.
That you won't have to worry about bf going away for sometime - which might put you in a vulnerable state without him. Think of other psychos that might attack you he is there unable to protect you.