step kids question - need insight

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Registered: 12-06-2007
step kids question - need insight
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Thu, 09-18-2008 - 9:15am

My EAP is on his 2nd M, he has 2 kids from 1st M.

 

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Registered: 04-05-2007
Thu, 09-18-2008 - 9:21am

I think he lied to you about how he felt about her.

If he is unwilling to leave her because "his heart won't let him" then he loves her, plain and simple.

We could give him the benefit of the doubt and say that he didn't realize how deep his feelings were for her until he really had to decide to leave or stay.

But he's chosen to stay and that tells you exactly what he feels.

His e-mail was a test to see if he could rope you back in with the "new rules" - which are, he is staying right where he is. If that's not what you want, stay firm in your decision!

Some would say that I fell from grace... but I didn't.

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Registered: 12-06-2007
Thu, 09-18-2008 - 1:21pm

Thank you lexione.

 

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Registered: 04-05-2007
Thu, 09-18-2008 - 3:09pm

That's a good attitude! It is easier to let go when your mad. Unfortunately we don't keep the anger very long, so be prepared for the "sad, miss him" stage eventually, and just keep in mind what it is you really want for your life.

And (((hugs))) too. Those always help. :-)

Some would say that I fell from grace... but I didn't.

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