Stepping off the Roller Coaster

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Registered: 08-21-2003
Stepping off the Roller Coaster
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Fri, 09-19-2003 - 3:26pm
Well, I've decided to call it quits with my A w/MM. It is clear to me that it's not going to go anywhere and staying where it is is not good enough for me. I can't handle waiting several days to hear from him. We were together last Friday and he went out of town and has not called since. I ran into him in passing yesterday and still no phone call from him. I'm done playing this game and am going to seek a more healthy relationship with someone who is NOT married and more emotionally available. I don't know how I got here, but I am glad that I kept my guard up for the last 7 months and didn't let my emotions get out of control. I see now that our relationship is only based on sex and even though he *said* things that might make me think otherwise, reality (and his actions) tell me otherwise. I've pledged to myself that I will never get involved again with someone who is unavailable. It's not worth the pain. I want to tell him how disappointed I am in him, but I don't want to give him the satisfaction in knowing that he got to me. I also want to tell him that he needs to be careful with his next young toy because she may not be as level headed as me. It hurts, but I can deal with it on my own. I don't feel like I need to tell him how I feel anymore.

I can sleep normal again.

I wish you all the best of luck in your A's and that you get the fulfillment you need from it. For those of you who are single....I would advise getting rid of him because he just wants his cake and eat it too without making any sacrifices. As for me, I'm worth making the sacrifice and if a man is not willing to...then he's not worthy of my love.

All the best.

Sher

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Fri, 09-19-2003 - 6:31pm
hi sheri happy for you so you are single like me.you know l have very special man in my life even l don't see very much .l think you know W is very sick.l try be with SG but he doesn't want me he saids he cares about me will always be here for me.not to sure about now he has return my ph from thursday also having really bad PMS right now.you know sher so misspell name up top. love to fine never great sg someone around own age and background. good luck sweetie hugs kimmy
kimmy
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Registered: 06-18-2003
Sat, 09-20-2003 - 6:00pm
Hi Sher - I too am single, and I have been struggling off and on since I started dating a MM 4 months ago. Its not too often that I stumble upon single women involved w/ MM. I need to hear the viewpoints of women like us. I hear you and sing your praises right now for being strong emough to end your A. I absolutely agree that you warrant and deserve a man that can give you what you need/want and most importantly, when you want it. Fortunately for me so far, I have been able to see my MM enough, he doesn't monopolize my time, nor does he strongly disappoint with plans. But I realize, and wait with baded breath, that as time goes on, there will be more than a few occassions when he will disappoint and I will become too annoyed. I am just afraid that when that time comes, I will be in too deep to let go... I know myself well enough that I am too emotional to have put myself in a situation like this. Right now I am reaping the benefits while trying (not hard) to seek out the SINGLE man of my dreams, and MM is my interim rendezvous....who I also happen to be in love with.....

Can't be good. Good luck with you. Keep us (even me) posted on how he reacts and how you carry on. I am curious...

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sat, 09-20-2003 - 8:02pm
I to am a single woman involved with a MM (who is happily married) but my 6 months have not been as pleasant as Dani's appear to be! I know he loves me but I've had a VERY hard time with not getting what I want and knowing he will never be able to provide what I need - it's so hard and I wish I was strong enough to grab ahold of Sher's coat tails!
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sat, 09-20-2003 - 8:14pm
hi imanewposter l know how feel l feel same way l never be able let go of my mm he in my heart and soul forever nothing be able change that. l know my special friend for 25 years nothing happen between us until l was 23 . hugs kimmy
kimmy