Still confused and possibly in love

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Registered: 02-23-2009
Still confused and possibly in love
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Mon, 03-30-2009 - 3:13pm

We will soon be moving close to this man I'm so confused about and I still don't know what to do.

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Registered: 10-10-2008
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 4:17pm
Yes, you can be "in love" with more than one!! You are not getting what you need in your marriage Or it has become stale. This "staleness" is the norm. What you feel now is like first "love". I recommend experience this new person fully and see in a year how you feel. Time will tell.
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Registered: 03-29-2009
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 4:25pm
there is nothing wrong with you. been there, done that with the beating myself up...guilt on top of guilt. where did it get me? physically and emotionally a mess...so stop for a moment and take a deep breath.
i have felt the rush of someone new, after 20 years of marriage. yes its all pink bubble land and not "real life, ie kids mortgage bills"...ok we ALL know that. i too wondered could i be in love with two very different men? i thought it impossible, but you know what? it was possible,,,they each were like half of the greatest guy in the world!. My friends that knew, all said, well it would be different if H was a SOB, but hes a decent guy. thats what made it so difficult. The passion was/is gone, if it ever was there to begin with. i was definitely invisible, didnt matter what i weighed, how i cut my hair, if i set myself on fire...it was Honey, you look great, i love you"...i know that sounds great, but it was yeah, whatever in my head.....AP was flirty, attentive, loving and wanted the attention i showered on him and vice versa. He wants a real life with me and i dont know what i feel so i am straddling a fence that you may not be. Dont rush things, but dont fall into the malaise of it will get better. New romantic love is heady and makes you feel young and sexy....does H make you feel that way? i am learning thru much counseling that you need to love yourself before you can accept it from someone else and have it be real...i wish i had a magic answer for you, but i am hear to listen just the same..........A
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Registered: 12-30-2008
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 4:28pm

Speaking from experience . . . don't let yourself go there.

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Registered: 02-23-2009
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 4:57pm

I always appreciate all the feedback I get on this board.

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Registered: 04-05-2007
Thu, 04-02-2009 - 11:52pm

Hi Amandamichelle.

Welcome to MAS. I can't help but notice the tone of your posts. You seem to MAYBE be posting in the wrong place. I want to remind you that this is an affair support board. Meaning that the posters here are either IN an affair or have been. That said, your advice, though well intentioned, might not be appreciated. It seems as though you have been touched by betrayal. If that is correct, I invite you to visit one of the betrayal support boards here at IVillage.

~Shadowz
~Shadowz