Still NC.... Starting to Accept This Now

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Registered: 02-18-2008
Still NC.... Starting to Accept This Now
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Wed, 09-24-2008 - 1:55pm

hello everyone...


I haven't posted in a while, but I have been lurking. My life has been through a lot of changes the past couple months. EAP (highschool boyfriend) decided to go NC (well, he told me that he wouldn't be getting my e-mails anymore if I wrote him). He did not say bye or anything, so I have been left confused. All he said was that September wasn't good for him to talk. I do not know what the heck that means.

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Registered: 11-28-2007
Wed, 09-24-2008 - 2:30pm

Hi Gal -


Just wanted to send you tons of love and hugs - glad to hear from you - but I'm sorry you are still hurting.


I don't know how the whole blocked email thing works - but I'm not certain that you will ever know - and at this point - that's fine.

lightning in my heart

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Registered: 02-18-2008
Wed, 09-24-2008 - 2:43pm
Thank you so much for your encouraging and supporting words. You are great, this board is great. I will be keeping in touch. Thanks again.
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Registered: 04-05-2007
Wed, 09-24-2008 - 3:30pm

I have more than one e-mail address, and I experimented with "blocked" e-mails.

When I "blocked" one e-mail address from another one of mine, and sent test messages, the messages were not ever received. There was also no notification that a message had been blocked - no way for me to know that I'd received one at all. It didn't show up in the trash folder either, or the spam folder. It was as if it had never been sent.

On the side of the "blocked" e-mail - I never got the message back. I never got notification that that e-mail was blocked to me. It went through (or seemed to) like any e-mail goes through - said it was sent.

When I unblocked the address, I did not get any of the test messages sent when it was blocked, but I was now able to receive messages from the formerly blocked address. No indication that any messages HAD been blocked. Maybe it would have been nice, upon unblocking, to have a notice that X number of e-mails had been blocked from that address, but nothing.

I guess it's all good - usually when we block an address, we'd rather NOT know if any mails are coming from that address. It helps with closure.

That's how it worked with yahoo mail anyway. Don't know if others are different.

Some would say that I fell from grace... but I didn't.

Proud to be a



You've got a lot of choices. I
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Registered: 02-18-2008
Wed, 09-24-2008 - 3:40pm

Thank you for taking the time to answer. well, it is good probably that he will never get those messages that I sent. I am glad about that. I know he is not getting them because he told me he wouldn't be. Also, I let him know that a family member of mine, that he knew, died. If he had truly gotten that message, he would have repsonded. He truly is not getting them. His e-mail at work and phone records did get audited. I wonder if it caused problems and he chose to block my e-mail for that reason. It doesn't matter, what's done is done.


Once again, thank you for taking the time to answer.

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Registered: 12-06-2007
Wed, 09-24-2008 - 4:01pm

I'm in your boat gal_lovetoread.


Reconnected with an old high school crush (never my boyfriend back then though), started an intense EA.

 

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Registered: 07-18-2008
Thu, 09-25-2008 - 12:20pm
Sorry to hear about the death in your family.

Glad you're still lurking around here and hope you are doing better. The only thing you can do is focus on yourself and accept that your EAP is going NC.

I know it's hard, especially because you didn't get any closure. Just fight the temptation to contact him and get involved in something you like and something that will fill your time and keep your mind off EAP.

I'm so glad I decided to sign up for the course I've been meaning to take for years. It is a life saviour for me.
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Registered: 02-18-2008
Fri, 09-26-2008 - 8:41pm
so sorry that you are going through a rough time.
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Registered: 02-18-2008
Fri, 09-26-2008 - 8:43pm
Yes.. I have to accept he went NC. So hard to do... but I have got to accept it. I am going