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| Mon, 11-24-2003 - 9:31pm |
Yes, I lurk there -- don't we all from time to time? Well...I do!! Cute article I just read on men's thinking, or lack thereof!!
Maybe it will help some of us out....
http://www.miami.com/mld/miamiherald/living/columnists/dave_barry/7324952.htm

oh thanks Charlotte... I loved it! and it's oh so true! I've complained to DH thousands of times about all the things left on the floor by either him or the kids... I get well... I thought you were ok walking over them... no! just left them there in hopes that he would pick them up... but he doesn't them... but to walk over them.
oh dear... thank god MM is not the same... what a lucky wife he has.
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I'll have to try & find the book referenced next time I am in the bookstore. But first, I'm off to research which foods increase the level of serotonin & oxytocin so that I can avoid them, but feed them to the boys I know, lol.
Seriously, I don't totally buy into the chemical/brain-sector-size as men vs. women theory - after all, men experience just as many human relationships as women do and the same emotions, too. The male & female brain is a computer, storing emotion & relationship experiences...there is no error of lost or not-stored data - *some* men just choose not to recall that data (consciously or subconsciously), or do not know how to function with that data (having never learned or conditioned not to), so it's kept stored away.
It's more yin & yang - the balance between the over-emotional woman and non-emotional man. Eventually I think women will learn how to handle emotions without the rollercoaster of ups and downs, and men will learn how to recall and function with the emotions...a different overall societal balance.
Who knows really!
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Seriously, it is essential to women's well-being that they eat foods that BOOST, not inhibit, serotonin production. Serotonin is very important in preventing depression. In fact, many of the newer generation anti-depressants work on serotonin (and norepinephrine). But don't go out and get it in pill form when it's free in the food you eat! Plus, pills cause a tolerance, and leave you worse off than before.
The interesting thing is that women can respond to greater levels of serotonin than men. Men aren't as capable of using this extra serotonin to deal with increased levels of stress, etc. It's another case of, it's not that women are hypersensitive, it's that men are hyposensitive.
Here's another fascinating fact that illustrates this point. When a fetus is developing, it starts off as female. If the genes are such that the child will be male, at some point the fetus undergoes a "hormone bath" in the womb, which causes all the changes to make the fetus male start to occur. One of the effects of this hormone bath is that the right hemisphere of the brain recedes slightly in comparison to the left hemisphere.
Right hemisphere brain function includes artistic creativity and emotional response. Left-brain function includes things such as logic and language. Clearly, women are as adept as men with language and verbal communication, so one could hardly say that females are left-brain deficient. Our capacity is just as great as males'. However, males have a diminished capacity for right-brain functions by comparison.
This is because our ancient male ancestors needed to be good pack (hierarchy) communicators and hunters, and focusing on things like emotions is not good when you're trying to kill your dinner before it makes dinner out of you!
So again, it's not that we're somehow deficient in logic, or hyper-emotional. We're equally logical compared to males. Their relative imbalance of logic and emotion just makes it *seem* as though they're more logical than us. They're really just more logical than they are emotional.