STOP THE AFFAIR! Trust me
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| Wed, 11-05-2003 - 9:09pm |
He denied the whole A and said I was lying! He said I was more into him than he was to me. He first said he didn't love me, then admitted he said it to me. He kept saying I was a liar. My whole world fell apart. She then asked him one more time how many times we had sex, he said 3 , and she got upset and off the phone because he lied again. We had sex well over 30 times, and I thought it was making love, not sex because of the feelings we had. He later called me screaming at me that we never did nayting and he won't speak to me again expect for work stuff. So, all you women out there, he sold me down the river. Last week, I was in his arms, and he told me he loved me, and now, he's charaterizing me as a liar and that I made it up! My therapist says MM and his wife are in denial and they're nuts. I tend to agree now. Therapist said he'll come back, but I should not let him. I at first felt bad about saying anyting, but my therapist said I did the noble thing and he sold me out. But I want to forgive him for selling me out, but he was so mean to me! I'm so extremely devastated about this.
So, please take my word for it. I know you love, I know you want to wait for him, and you think he'll leave, but he won't. I thought my MM was different from stories I heard, but he's not. When all was said and done he sold me out to cover his butt! I'm hurting so much, I mad for falling for him, for trusting him. A's are too dangerous. And people, whether one or both, get hurt in the end. So, if he loves you, and you love him, leave him alone until his marriage is over then pursue it. But please don't do it while he's married. Because if she finds out, I'm afraid he'll sell you out too!
Good luck to all..

Charlotte
cl-liberalgirl
callmeliberal@hotmail.com
Thank you lucky stars that you already had a therapist in your life!
Keep your chin up and check out this message board. They are also in the break-up stage.
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlending
Aquagirl
Today was the first time I saw MM since Tuesday, when this whole thing happened. We work together so it's inevitable. I ignored him, but he eventually came into my office and shut the door. He gave me some work stuff and asked how I was doing. I just kept saying "it's just work". He eyes teared up and he said "you're acting as if you don't even know me". I replied, "well, you're my imaginary friend, right?"-being sarcastic because he said I was lying about the whole A to his wife.
Then, we were on a work conference call and he kicked the chair I was in and smiled, and I didn't show emotion to that. Then he came back into my office and said he was sorry for yelling and that he was upset I said things to his wife that he told me in trust. I told him I didn't tell her details, but she is manipulative and got me to say things (she's really good at that). I said I was upset that he called me a liar and that I almost had a breakdown and had to see my therpist because I really thought I was going crazy after he accused me of lying. MM said he was sorry. He also told me he's not living at home anymore. (But I think they're still going to counseling this weekend).
I'm really trying to be strong. My 2 friends that know about it are telling me to ignore him, but the conversation we had was so naturally flowing, like are old coversations. But I'm trying to be tough and want to hate him so much but I can't. There is a tender side to him, but he betrayed me and I can't forgive that now.
I'll have to take one day at a time... thanks again.
good luck, honey,
gurl