Stop me before i

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2008
Stop me before i
2
Fri, 11-28-2008 - 11:17am

..call his W and tell her about her H and i being together.I am going crazy.they have gone on holiday with kids and even though my AP has told me its his last holiday ,there is nothing left in the M, i believe him but i cant get the thoughts out about the 'what ifs'..what if these holidays bring them together again? what if he forgets about me?
Like in another post ,i want our R to be told to someone he or i know.like some friend,some family member, someone? Its absurd but i cant keep betweeen us anymore.

He has been calling everyday even when he is with her on hoilday.that tells me that he is serious and cares.but i am feeling very insecure.

Anyone else feel insecure when your AP is not with you ? does it comes back to trust, urghh.Someone pleeeeeeeease help me out.

TIA

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-26-2007
Fri, 11-28-2008 - 11:59am

Doll, you've made the right step to come here and seek support before doing something very stupid ( sorry for being so straightforward:) ). I understand your tempations are high. We all feel insecure from NC, vacations, and million other reasons and no reasons. As much as I try to guide people to make their own decisions, I would take a different approach here and tell you NOT TO DO IT. He has to do it himself, when he is ready, how he wants to be done. He must be ready to do and try to gain some confidence from his words, he's said alot he cares and is serious. You now have to let him to become ready to do, it is not an easy step for him to end his M, even when there is no feelings left, he needs to consider everything, such as custody ( or visitation rights).


Just be a bit patient, girl. I know it is hard, cuz I am not patient. Make it fun!!!...

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Registered: 01-12-2008
Fri, 11-28-2008 - 1:15pm

Doll,


You are seriously treading on thin ice.