When emotions come into play an affair does become more intense than ever. I think both of you are at a turning point in your A - it means more to you than it was before and that is why its all strange, esp if it all started out as no string attached affair. I know how you feel. I fell for my MM fast, within four months of us meeting - all he had to do was smile and it melted my heart like butter. Even now, when I look into his eyes - the intensity takes my breath away. Somedays I cannot get enough of him - its like an addiction and this from someone who has thought I was as a self controlled person before MM came along. With him all my self control/immunity to charm melts away - god help me! LOL I thinks its all because I love this man with all my heart and he will be in my heart/soul forever. I love him unconditionally and it doesn;t matter what it all is going to lead us. Sometimes I am scared of loosing him forever and it hurts to see him go back to his wife. I want to be with him all the time - I want to be his for the rest of his life. sigh.... Isn't love complicated....
hi sally. i'm a little confused about what you are asking. are you asking why all the sudden all the emotional attachment? if you are, i would say it's because your R has matured and changed from friends who talk about everything, including your primary R/Ms, to lovers who are more into each other's minds and hearts. i certainly do not want to dissect my MM's M nor does he want to discuss my R with BF. when we're together, it's about he and i. no one else intrudes, because that's our time.
MM and i were friends first, with his W and my BF, for 5+ years before anything happened between us, on a more intimate level. MM and i haven't said "i love you" in person to each other, but have used the "love" word over the telephone in other contexts. hard to explain, but we both know how we feel about each other. there have been many threads on here about loving two people at the same time.
you have to overcome that insecurity and ask him what's going on in his head. tell him you're confused and not sure about his attitude, that he seems different somehow. honesty is the best policy and once you get the dialogue started between you two, you can bring up issues that bother you. if he cares about you in the least, your MM will want to make you feel better about what's going on between you.
MM and i were friends first, with his W and my BF, for 5+ years before anything happened between us, on a more intimate level. MM and i haven't said "i love you" in person to each other, but have used the "love" word over the telephone in other contexts. hard to explain, but we both know how we feel about each other. there have been many threads on here about loving two people at the same time.
you have to overcome that insecurity and ask him what's going on in his head. tell him you're confused and not sure about his attitude, that he seems different somehow. honesty is the best policy and once you get the dialogue started between you two, you can bring up issues that bother you. if he cares about you in the least, your MM will want to make you feel better about what's going on between you.
good luck,
gurl