Strictly sexual affair
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Strictly sexual affair
| Sat, 09-20-2003 - 1:32am |
I've been having an affair for about 6 months. This man used to be a friend of my husband's but they had a falling out that had nothing at all to do with our affair. My husband has no knowledge whatsoever of this affair.
This is not my first affair. But this one is something that I almost can't live without. I do enjoy sex with my husband. I look at it this way, My husband can do things that my affair cannot. In other words I thoroughly enjoy and crave the loving-making and closeness of being with my husband but my affair is strictly sex without feelings of love or deep intimacy. The other man is considerably larger than my husband and has much more stamina. But since I do not love this other man I feel surprizingly detached from him. After a few amazing rounds with this other guy, I can get dressed, have a cigarette, give him a quick peck goodbye and leave. In a nutshell ladies, I guess I'm having my cake and eating it too. Am I doing something wrong here? I feel guilty for not feeling any guilt. And I can't stop sleeping with this other guy. Actually I really don't want it to end. It's too good.
This is not my first affair. But this one is something that I almost can't live without. I do enjoy sex with my husband. I look at it this way, My husband can do things that my affair cannot. In other words I thoroughly enjoy and crave the loving-making and closeness of being with my husband but my affair is strictly sex without feelings of love or deep intimacy. The other man is considerably larger than my husband and has much more stamina. But since I do not love this other man I feel surprizingly detached from him. After a few amazing rounds with this other guy, I can get dressed, have a cigarette, give him a quick peck goodbye and leave. In a nutshell ladies, I guess I'm having my cake and eating it too. Am I doing something wrong here? I feel guilty for not feeling any guilt. And I can't stop sleeping with this other guy. Actually I really don't want it to end. It's too good.

~Wishing~
Dusty
what can I say?? good on you!! if you can keep this strickly sexual... then I say go for it! I think a lot of women enter an EMA for the sex... myself included... I knew that's what it was... but over three and a half years of a friendship that has matured and leaning on this person for support and other needs as well... I found myself falling in love with him.
As I said... I think it's great that you can do this and as long as the both of you have an understanding of what you have... then go with it. Just remember though... that those feelings can... and Im not saying they will... but they can at any stage appear for either of you... and if and when that happens... you must ensure that you are still both getting what you want out of it... otherwise it may be time to walk away.
Good luck with it... and enjoy it for what it is
luv and hugs
Sweet
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