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| Mon, 04-12-2004 - 7:06pm |
But I feel this intensity on both sides that both of us are afraid to reveal to each other...and I feel he wants me to be the one who brings up our "feelings". What is strange is that we talked more about our "feelings" towards each other on the 3rd day we were together in a car ride together--he emphasized how he really liked my personality and my perspective on things. He's since that time included me in on some things in his life that make me think he's looking for more. He's mentioned several times about how he's "unhappy about many things in his life", but when I ask if he wants a break from me, or time away and that I'd understand and still be there, he's adament about saying that he wants to keep me in his life. We've never had NC. He also has talked about wishing he didn't buy his house where it is (it's outside the metro area where I live, so a bit of a drive from me). He's also starting to get a bit careless about us getting found out.
I think MM may be afraid of falling for me because of being afraid of being hurt. He's asked me more than once why I want to be with him...he seems to have a bit of a self-confidence issue there (possibly).
How can I bring this up?
Where do I bring this up?
When should I bring this up?

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I just hate to lose what I have with him even though it is very slow in coming; if it ever does.
Now I'm just rambling and off the subject. Sorry ....I miss him .....
V.
So my advice is be as patient as you can, look for expressions of love in other things, and set your own time limits. When you feel that you have given him ample time to be clear on his feelings, be brave, lay it on the line, and see what happens. What he says or doesn't say will speak volumes of what his plans are for the relationship. You'll know its time when you decide that you can live with whatever his response is-good or bad.
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