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| Wed, 12-10-2003 - 10:00pm |
Divorced after 10 years in 1997, I met this man and we began a relationship. The sex is great. We get together maybe once or twice a week; sometimes more, sometimes less. Have "sleep overs" when his wife is out of town. We have very deep feelings for each other. My exhusband and I are still battling out custody of our 13 yr old son - currently we have alternating week custody. I pay that man child support!
Anyway, the affair I'm in works so fine for me. No commitment. I get to call my own shots. I don't have to worry about dating anyone. The sex is great. I DON'T want him to leave his wife!
But lately, he's been thinking about our future together. Even says he's thinking about leaving his wife because he "loves" me. I do care for him very much, but I can't imagine living with him fulltime or being married to him.
He is rather jealous - thinks I'm dating other people when I'm not. Actually after my divorce, he's the only one I've been with. He is rather moody - maybe that's why I can't imagine being married to him or living with him fulltime.
How on earth do I get this across to him? I know he'll be very upset, but Christmas is just around the corner and I'm panicking because I think he may try to propose. I do have a hard time telling people "no"!
I just want what we have to continue on and on. Maybe someday I'll think about being with him full time (like when my 13 yr old grows up). But right now, and for the forseeable future, I DON'T want to commit to anyone except my kids.
Any thoughts or suggestions would be most appreciated!

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