Support Badly Needed - Rejected??
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Support Badly Needed - Rejected??
| Tue, 01-20-2004 - 7:14am |
Hi all, I'm new here. Like many of you, I never thought I'd be the "type" to want to have an A, but here I am, wanting one. To make a long story short, the OM is S and I am M. He is a great friend of mine, but also of my H. Recently I hinted greatly to OM and got the ol' "nothing could ever happen between us - I would never do anything to hurt our friendship - and you're married to a good man". Has this ever happened to any of you, and if so, is there hope for a change of heart on OM's behalf? I feel that we've been having an emotional affair for months now, and have become very interested in taking it to the next level, but now I am just crushed and feeling hopeless. Please, anyone with a similiar experience, do reply. Oh, and I should mention that I do love my H, but our relationship has always been like a best friendship, and not as a H & W should be. It would kill me to ever hurt him, but now I'm dying to explore this other option, which now looks hopeless.
Thanks in advance for any replies. Believe me, I'll be here waiting to hear from someone on this! :(
-CM

BACK OFF RIGHT NOW!! you've put the idea out there. now you have to let OM think about it. men are funny, they like to stew on an idea for awhile and then act on it. you never know, OM might change his mind and in a few weeks or so, come back to you and say, let's go for it.
in the meantime, you have to back off and leave OM alone. i know it's hard, but don't throw yourself at him. OM knows how you feel. let him come to you.
distract yourself with other stuff. clean out closets, hang out with your girlfriends, read a good book, spend time with your H. just don't contact OM for a few weeks to a month and see what happens. you can't rush something like this.
relax and let it happen, if it's supposed to.
gurl
Please keep the replies coming.....I really, REALLY need this or I'm afraid I'll fall apart!
Thanks again,
-CM
and you can "hope" and "pray" and keep all your fingers crossed, but don't stop living your life in anticipation of what SG might do. as time goes by, you'll move out of that "hellish" feeling. unless, of course, SG comes around. then you'll be moving onto the rollercoaster with the rest of us!!
gurl
Thanks,
-CM