Supporting the MM through the Divorce
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Supporting the MM through the Divorce
| Thu, 04-08-2004 - 11:59am |
Any tips on how to prepare myself (financially and emotionally) for this? How to give him support and encouragement without "nagging"? Are there any specific things that could help, or hurt, our relationship? Have any of you gone through this, and how did it work out?
Any help or suggestions are much appreciated.
Thank you!!

I haven't done much wife bashing in the past, so I don't think that will be a problem unless things get nasty... at which point I will take your advice and keep my mouth shut.
Asking him questions about it is my biggest downfall, but it's so hard!! I really want to know what's going on in his life, but it quickly goes from curiosity to nagging with me... I avoid it, but, yeah, it's hard.
What about finances? Is there anything I can do to help out? I'm not familiar with the divorice process enough to really know how this effects men.
What about being named in the divorce? Has anyone had that happen? What did you do, and how did it effect your life?
Thanks so much!!
What IS does for me is pretty much perfect. She doesn't bring things up, she lets me do that as I need to. We focus on the other aspects of our lives. But if I need to talk or vent, she is always there to listen. She will occasionally comment and has said, "I hate her and how she treats you". But I know she only says that because she loves me and doesn't like to see anyone hurt me. I guess I would say to just be there for him. I know it is difficult for you to wait this period out and feel completely powerless. I try to keep IS updated as far as when I'm moving out, when I'll file and things like that because I know how much those dates mean to her. But understand that he may not want to share these things until they actually happen. Just be as strong as you can. But don't be afraid to tell him if you're scared or sad. Just because he's going through a lot doesn't mean you don't need support once in awhile too.