Suspicious Wife -- What am I missing?

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Suspicious Wife -- What am I missing?
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Mon, 08-25-2008 - 2:23pm

Hi All,


Brief bio: AP and I have been in a 3 1/2 year A, with a semi-D-Day three years ago by my H, who thinks it was an EA only and has not (nor will not) tell his W.


AP's wife has over the past six months or so, begun making comment's like, "If you're seeing someone else, I will find out about it," "You're not interested in me anymore," and "I'm not as naive as you think I am..."


She has also threated to go through his cell phone bills, which is a pretty massive undertaking in his line of work.


I read on another thread a warning that if the wife is suspicious, it's just a matter of time before the A is found out. Well, I don't want that to happen of course, so I'm trying to cover our bases just in case.


We don't use cell phones unless I call him from a landline and block my number, which just shows up on his bill as his number. The bill comes to him in his name, but she has opened them in the past. The problem here is that in the past few months he has called me from HIS cell, even though I've asked him not to. It has slowed down considerably (once or twice) in the last month or so, so those bills shouldn't be any red flag. But if she somehow gets his past records from the cell carrier, then the jig is up. This is my biggest concern.


We meet randomly, and no more than once a week, if that. The places are different and not out in public.


We aren't coworkers, etc, and have no reason for people to put two-and-two together because we run in different circles.


We don't e-mail anymore, but we did until my semi D-day.


We rarely chat online. Usually only when my H is away and after his W is in bed or

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Registered: 11-27-2007
Mon, 08-25-2008 - 2:50pm

If it was just a general "how do we avoid discovery" question, I would have a different answer. But its

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Registered: 11-28-2007
Mon, 08-25-2008 - 2:58pm

Circe!!!

lightning in my heart

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Registered: 02-25-2008
Mon, 08-25-2008 - 3:07pm

Hope it is OK to just say......this post and it's replies

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Registered: 11-28-2007
Mon, 08-25-2008 - 4:51pm

Thanks sweetie - right back atcha!!!

lightning in my heart

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Mon, 08-25-2008 - 6:39pm

Ugh. I appreciate your responses even if it isn't what I want to hear.


She doesn't know anything for sure. She just knows he isn't showing her the attention she needs.

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Registered: 02-09-2008
Mon, 08-25-2008 - 8:52pm

I'm also a BS and I can tell you that if she's saying anything then she knows plenty.

Trust me, if the W suspects and wants to know, she'll stop at nothing.

Pisces




Edited 11/23/2008 8:16 pm ET by pisces2008
pisces
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Registered: 07-23-2008
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 3:29am

Pisces....ITA with the bit >>>>>

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 8:59am
what do mean by their aura. my MM is very good at hiding the affair and compartmentalizing the affair. also i can tell he still is intimate with his wife, how. when we made love last night it took him longer then usual to finish, which means he was intimate with his wife. which is ok by me because it took longer for him to finish for us. i'm the one that has a harder time showing my husband affection. i guess you really have to be in tune with your husband to know. i know my MM is making our love making more intense now, not different zones. i wonder if it will carry into his personal relationship with his wife. he's become much more intense.
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Registered: 07-09-2008
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 9:53am

....not just married women, but women in general are very good detectives and if we are suspicious we will stop at nothing to confirm what we know.

Point in case: Myself. Look at all the research I dug up on him just because I think he's being dishonest.

Circe his W must know something otherwise she wouldn't be making those kind of comments. I make those comments when I know something and want a confession out of him.

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Tue, 08-26-2008 - 8:05pm

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