Tell me your longest Nc with return

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Registered: 03-05-2004
Tell me your longest Nc with return
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Fri, 05-14-2004 - 7:19pm
Hi,

I was curious as to amount of time of NC you have been through and then they returned .

Weeks ? months ?

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Registered: 04-22-2004
Fri, 05-14-2004 - 7:41pm
We have only been together for a month and a half or so, but we only made it through maybe 3 days without talking to one another.
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Fri, 05-14-2004 - 10:05pm
I do all or most of the contact so i would say maybe a week. We have never talked about not contacting each other and since he is in the high pressure job and we only communicate by cell M-F 8-5 lol, it really is up to me. This week I had a taste of what he goes through, I was so busy I forgot about him! By the time I ran into him at the office yesterday, his eyes lit up when he saw me. Interesting developement there :)

dd

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Registered: 04-01-2004
Fri, 05-14-2004 - 10:23pm
I always know when I will be contacted again --- we never go more than 2 or 3 days without talking even if it's for a few minutes I get at a pay phone on my way home from work -

If my MM ever put me in a NC limbo I would not be happy about it !!!

If he leaves on vacation I know when he will be home and I expect to usually hear from him within 2 or 3 days of him getting re-settled and clear his desk of work issues and so forth - but we never just drop off the face of the earth -

even now - in the 'limbo' we are in we are still in contact with each other and talk

about every other day and know what the other is up to -

K

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Registered: 05-05-2004
Fri, 05-14-2004 - 10:49pm
Unfortunatly it is currently 4 days! and when i wake up it will be 5 days. I want to scream! i am sure i will post when we finally talk again. Please let it be soon!
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Registered: 05-16-2003
Sat, 05-15-2004 - 11:32am
the longest we've gone was 2 months. He got fired from where we both work, and I thought I would never talk to him again. I had his home number, but didn't want to bother him and have his wife answer and me to hang up all the time. So finally about 2 months he drives by my house and I happen to be putting garland up on the window and saw him, so we made plans after that. I have his cell, and he has mine. We've been having an a for 1 yr. 4 mo. now.
Gina
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Registered: 01-31-2004
Sat, 05-15-2004 - 12:30pm
the longest we've ever gone is 3 days (and in a year - that was only 2x) once over a long weekend and another time, he was away at a conference. sometimes, we go 1 day without talking..but, not typically.
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Registered: 03-30-2003
Sat, 05-15-2004 - 2:25pm
The longest we have gone is about 2 weeks and that has happened abiut 4 times in a year and a half. Mainly it was due to life things..birth of child, loss of father-in-law. We didn't plan on having NC it just worked out that way. It has not hurt us at all. I don't think we'd go that long now but we have and we are no worse for it.
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Registered: 04-15-2004
Sat, 05-15-2004 - 3:30pm
Well, I have only been in my EMA for 5 months so far. The first NC was one month into the affair, and we lasted 2 days (I cried for 2 days and I found out he was also miserable for the 2 days) before resuming. We haven't broken it off since then, but we did go for a week without seeing or talking to each other. I am thinking of NC for the next 3 months simply because my kids will be home for the summer and we both have planned family vacations, so, communication will be next to impossible. I am planning on using this NC time for re-evaluating the affair and seeing if I want to continue.
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Registered: 04-16-2004
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 1:27pm
The most was 10 days, and part of that he was out of town.
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Registered: 05-02-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 12:38pm
The longest we went was 3 months of really NC and boy it was awful. He had needed time to try to work on his relationship with W- that was last March. We started recommunicating maybe once every 2 weeks over the summer, but it was still somewhat awkward. In Oct we had a long discussion about us and I knew his feelings for me had not changed. I think he needed to know that I was not the reason his marriage was in the shape that it was. I do not think he would have ever asked for a D, but his W did in Jan. They are now D- quite quick. I have known him for over 20 years and he was my first love and I was his.

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