To Tell Or Not To Tell...??
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To Tell Or Not To Tell...??
| Tue, 05-18-2004 - 11:25am |
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Edited 9/24/2004 2:53 pm ET ET by bad_kitty314
Edited 9/24/2004 2:53 pm ET ET by bad_kitty314
| Tue, 05-18-2004 - 11:25am |
Edited 9/24/2004 2:52 pm ET ET by bad_kitty314
You know my story so...I think this is what YOU would tell ME so if I was in your shoes...
Do not tell him. Tell him the 'who' is irrelevent and the 'here and now' is what matters. You and H have come a long way on repairing your M; he needs to see this was in the past and that HE is your #1. Period.
I would however not lie and give a fake name. If H finds out about this too, well then you've really got a mess. He will NEVER trust you again.
Hold your ground girl- YOU CAN DO IT!!!!
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Good luck to you! Please keep posting - we're here for you any time.
Peace
GB2
the one thing i learned from the whole thing is that just cause someone says they want to forgive you..... it doesn't mean they can. to much information in the wrong hands can hurt you so keep it to yourself. i did it for the past 7 years and i will go to the grave with the name.
good luck!
Saag
Usually he's ok with it. But sometimes he just gets this look in his eye and says, "What's his name?" That kills me inside to know that I did that to him. Also, on a bad note, he says if he ever found out who it is, he wants to make their life hell. Well, I can't let poor XOM go through that...I mean heck, he's been so supportive through this whole thing. He even encouraged me to work on my M.
(What happened that brought all this back up again, was that H's BIL cheated on his S. And filed for D, and won't give the name of the OW...which I think is understandable, but then look where I've been...) So, H says that I am protecting OM by not telling him the name, and I say that I'm not, that it shouldn't matter, who the OM was doesn't matter, that we should move on. That I am committed 110% to making it work...well we'll see