Textd Him today.. stupid mistake..

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Textd Him today.. stupid mistake..
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Wed, 11-12-2003 - 3:33pm
feel even stupider and desperate than ever before. I decíded this was it, i had to know if at least his mom is okay. he textd back immediately with, yeah, still bad, but better, difficult, and you.. whats new, any plans for the week..

i was happy to hear that, but HELLO.. 10 days nothing, just to hear that its okay, and things haven't really changed.. i textd back this whole thing about is he back at work, and i am sure he is busy with so many things now, like is long planned business trip to denmark ( in which he was planning on getting to finland too also.. ) and just that i don't know what to say to him, but that i wish him a great weekend, week, business trip and talk whenever.. but of course NO reply to that.. selective reading i suspect..

why can't i just accept its over??i said it was, he agreed it was better but said he wants me in his life.. how? can he feel me through osmosis, cause i am NOT in his life in anyway. days, weeks go by with no words, no calls, nothing and he STILL wants ME in his life.. f'ing heck, i just think this is useless.. of course lame o me.. just want to talk to him, its been 2 weeks since I called him talking about ending it, but nope, he still doesn't care, call etc.. what a waste of my and all of you guy's energy. thanks

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Wed, 11-12-2003 - 3:45pm
mikko -- honey, you need to let him be. really and truly, MM wants to "have you in his life" when he feels like it, not when you want him to.... unfortunately, you cannot control him, only yourself.

so please let him go. do not text him, do not call him. you MUST stop now! if only for your self-respect.

LET HIM GO.

hugs for you over here in the States,

gurl

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Wed, 11-12-2003 - 3:56pm
gurlfriend i know this in my head, but something keeps getting lost in the translation.. you have always been so supportive, with the keep your pride pep talks, but f**k i just feel arg.. i dunno. like this is a waste of my time.. should throw my cell away for a few weeks, just check it at night, or something, cause its too tempting to text him, especially on the bus home or somthing, when i am alone.. it sucks.. :-(

everyone i know goes away in the end...

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Wed, 11-12-2003 - 4:38pm
mikko, honey, everyone does go away in the end and you are alone, with only yourself. so you better come to love yourself however you can. maybe you should consider talking to a professional to sort out your self-esteem issues.

and please try to practice some self-control regarding the cellphone/texting. put the phone away and read a book on the bus. or sleep. that's what i do on my commute. i know it's hard honey, i swear i do. but you have to leave him alone now. you are an intelligent, loving young woman. don't put yourself down because you're in a down cycle emotionally.

go get a manicure and some new shoes! that always helps me through.

keep coming here and talking with us. WE ARE SOOO HERE FOR YOU!!

gurl

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Wed, 11-12-2003 - 9:58pm
Oh mikko...

I agree here with gurl! Listen, look at it this way -- if you hold back and don't text him and he doesn't call, you will still have your pride, and when all is said and done you will be VERY HAPPY that you still have THAT! On the other hand, if he does call, you will know that he is making an effort because he wants to -- not because he felt obligated or pressured to.

Let him have the chance to miss you and maybe he will. If he doesn't, GO SHOPPING -- that always works for me!! Hang in there sweetie!

Charlotte

 

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Thu, 11-13-2003 - 10:13am
SHOPPING IS GREAT THERAPY!!!! LOL

Dont yall wish ya could install a buzzer on the seat of your pants that would shock you everytime you started dialing his number or texting him? I know I do...sometimes I feel like sucha fool after Ive left him a needy friggin message...yet that terrible feeling is never enough to keep me from leaving him another one later...

cl-liberalgirl

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Thu, 11-13-2003 - 10:40am
Hey there sweetie.

Don't beat yourself up, but you gotta let go,

this is not good for you sweetie and will just prolong the

heartbreak and the tears... I know.. we all do...

I did shopping therapy last night... try it. Just for you and shoes

give you an extra boost.... get some new boots for the winter... I did!!

Turn the phone off.