Tgrbabe - a question

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Registered: 06-20-2008
Tgrbabe - a question
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Mon, 08-25-2008 - 3:32pm


Sorry, I felt bad hijacking poor Greeneyes post.

Thanks. Interesting. Typical men when they see that u maybe scooped up, they come back :)

If you have any pointers for me from your experience or from the boards please tell me. My story is around here but AP and dated years ago. He broke up with me (age difference was a little big at the time) ... found me a few years later ... stayed friends .... (but both secretly wanted the other). .. he told me his feelings a couple of years ago ... EA for a 1 1/2 years and PA briefly this year. (we live in different states). He is always the one who sought me out and regretted ending it all those years ago when we were single.

Now we are M, his M is sort of blah and they don't live in the same state either, they have separated and are still in a strange distant place. Yet he was the one who really wanted the PA with me. THen he got scared and felt guilty and wanted to take things a little slower. Now we only email a few times a week, and speak every couple of weeks. I asked him if he wants to end this and he said NO. He is stuck in limbo as am I with my M.

I am always initiating and contacting ... any advice on how to peak his interest again? Should I stop contacting him for a bit? I feel like he is taking me for granted knowing how I feel about him and that I will always be there.

Thanks MW

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Registered: 11-28-2007
Mon, 08-25-2008 - 6:06pm

Hi MW

lightning in my heart

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Registered: 06-20-2008
Mon, 08-25-2008 - 6:15pm

Thanks it does make sense. I did speak iwth him about this stuff and he still wants to continue and apologized for the lack of contact due to work. But I agree with u ... everybody has ONE moment in the day.

I think I will pull away a bit ... now let's see if i have the strength. I do love him but this is all confusing.

MW