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Registered: 12-31-2003
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Wed, 12-31-2003 - 1:09pm
Thanks for responding actually I am married also and that is why sometimes I feel that I am betraying H but it's difficult to seperate the feelings for the two of them, I love H but I'm not in love with him anymore OM makes me feel excited and I feel like I have butterflies in my stomach I know this might sound silly sometimes I can't have sex with H because I'm thinking of OM is this wrong? OM confuses me one minute he says he loves me then he says that I'm one of his best friends that if I wasn't in his life he would have a void but when were together the next day he is distant advice please!!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: lostalex
Wed, 12-31-2003 - 1:31pm
i'm gonna say once again, lost, that your MM is feeling guilty for cheating with you! it's not rocket science girl.

you two are not "dating" -- you're having an affair with all that encompasses - lying, cheating, guilt, depression AND excitement, sexual relief, communication, and yes, love. that's why we here on the board call As the ultimate rollercoaster ride - more ups and downs then you can take!

i'm not sure why your MM tells you he loves you when he also tells you his W is his soulmate. i would more understand MM telling you he loves you, if he only "loved" his wife, but the soulmate part is hard to get past.

i really don't have much advice, other than to say that you must keep this A light and not so serious as you both are staying married to others and the A is more of an escape from everyday life than a future together.

gurl

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Registered: 05-22-2003
In reply to: lostalex
Wed, 12-31-2003 - 2:28pm
I agree with gurl. I think the distance you sometimes feel is the guilt. My MM has been like you describe for 4 years now. He is up and down at various times....I mean mentally, at least in this conversation ;-) I know MM always loves me but sometimes feels too guilty to say it out loud, then sometimes not. The soulmate thing, well, your MM probably told you to that so you would be sure to know that he has NO plans to leave his W, though he's probably questioning the soulmate thing every day now. No other way to describe it than a rollercoaster of emotions. Good luck!