Thank you for the replies to my post..

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thank you for the replies to my post..
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Sat, 08-23-2003 - 11:42am
below. I'm not real sure what to think about last night. I did sleep with this guy. Maybe it hasn't really sunk in yet, that I atually cheated on my H, but I don't really feel bad about it. There's nothing in store for me and this guy, it was definitely a one night thing. He was a little freaked out about it. He knows and use to work with my H, he also doesn't understand all the circumstances in our marriage. I did alot of thinking about my marriage before he came over last night, and I discovered alot of things that I never let myself think about before. Anyway, I'm off to "home" for a month which is about 1000 miles away from here and this guy. So I have plenty of time to think about things. Thank you all very much that responded to my post. Those of you that said I may be feeling lonely and abandoned, you hit it right on the head. Your replies helped me see things more clearly and meant alot to me. I hope all of you have great weekend. I'm off to see my family..YEA!!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 08-23-2003 - 12:09pm
Hi Tracy,

I wasn't on the board to respond to your original post, but I read it. I'm glad you found the support and insight you needed on the board.

I think alot of us don't know *why* we begin an A (or one night stand) intitially when we consider our M & H to be good overall. And, even when we don't consider the M or H to be good for us, we are still conflicted as to why or how we could contemplate or be in an A (or one night stand). I think the A (or one night stand) causes us to reflect or analyze - a good thing to know what the real issue is - but we don't want to over-analyze as we'll just end up confused!

It sounds like your going away to visit family is just the thing! You'll be in different surrounds, removed from the situation, and able to look at things more clearly. I wish you luck in your thought process, and above all I wish you lots of fun, and happiness!

Meow

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Sun, 08-24-2003 - 9:57am
Hey there, I'll tell you right

now, my first times in my A's,

I *never* felt guilt. I only

started to feel guilt a few

days ago. To pinpoint the

moment I felt guilt, I was

driving and I was on my way

home, and suddenly, guilt.

I never felt it over this,

and I do now. And the loneliness

is I guess the reason why I

started having A's. Good luck and

have a wonderful visit home!

~passion