Thanks

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-19-2003
Thanks
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Sun, 10-19-2003 - 2:08pm
I came across this board last night. I didn't stumble upon it, I was looking for it. I wanted to find out what other people think, and what they go through. I wanted to see if there was anyone else in the world going through what I'm going through. For a while now I have felt so alone in my situation. I've been with a MM for over 2 years and while we love each other, there have been many difficult times. I grew up believing in a fairy tale romance, and I found it in the strangest place. Still, I wouldn't trade it for anything because I found someone to love in a way I never thought was possible.

I just wanted to say thanks to everyone that had the courage to post. It's nice to know we are not alone. It's nice to know others feel the same way that you do and without judgement. I don't think any of us thought we'd be in the positions we are in, but it's so comforting that we can support each other.

Hugs to everyone!
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-20-2003
In reply to: softnstrong
Sun, 10-19-2003 - 8:58pm
Welcome Softnstrong,

This place is wonderful, isn't it? I honestly think that being involved in an affair is one of the most complicated of relationships. There are so many different emotions running amuck all the time. When I became involved with a MM, something I never thought would happen to me, I searched the internet for some place where I could relate to other people going through the same experiences I was going through. At first I found many message boards that would only label an affair as wrong and horrid, etc. I was so happy when I found this place.

I never intended to be involved in an affair, but suddenly I found myself completely in love with a MM....and he is in love with me. I don't feel like I'm the typical label of "home wrecker" that I've heard on many other boards, because his marriage was falling apart long before I ever became a factor. He used to think that what happened to him didn't matter as long as he was alive long enough to see the kids grown. This attitude was because he was miserable. Since becomming involved with me, his attitude has changed and he wants to stick around to see what the future will bring. Whether he stays with his W or not is his choice to be made, but I'm happy to know that I've made his life more enjoyable.

And when things get a little chaotic, I love knowing that this place is here for me. To know I'm not alone and to know that what I'm feeling isn't crazy....its just part of being involved in an affair.

Hugs to everyone,

Annika

Brightest Blessings, Annika


iVillage Member
Registered: 08-23-2003
In reply to: softnstrong
Sun, 10-19-2003 - 10:08pm
I agree that this board has been a big help. I have been in my EMA for over 3 years and have had many ups & downs. I like to come to the board when I'm having a bad day with my MM. It feels good to know I'm not alone.

Being in a EMA we all go through the same joys and heartaches. It's good to come to the board to vent.

I love my MM very much. He makes me happy, but him being married makes things hard...