Thanks tons Bad Kitty/Boston

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Registered: 02-22-2004
Thanks tons Bad Kitty/Boston
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Tue, 03-23-2004 - 10:02pm
Hey- I took your advice BK and Bos. Was myself, kind and caring. AND it worked. We got together today for an hour (we both had to p/u kids) and had a great time in a little bar that was quiet and out of the way. At the end, he took my hand. We kept on talking. I did not make any move on him. I believe he is testing his own limitations and comfort level. He walked me to my car, we hugged. Stepped back a bit and talked more, then when he wet his bottom lip rather nervously, I knew a kiss was at hand. Sure it was closed mouth but he started it and neither one of us pulled back. Lasted about 5 secs but that's enough I guess. He needs time. His comfort level is increasing little by little. Think this thing will progress further BK?

Baby steps right? I know it does not sound like much, but I am thrilled. I am out of town on biz for three days now and he has me cell. He also wanted to know when I am coming back and will I be back in time for our kids hockey game. Again, slow and easy is what I will let him be.

I can't thank you two enough!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Wed, 03-24-2004 - 7:40am
VLes, that is wonderful!! Yes, I think it will progress. You are exactly right...he's testing his own limitations. I also think it will be better for you, because when you're not in sex kitten mode, you can really be yourself!!! This is just the beginning...I'm proud of you for slowing down!
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Registered: 07-24-2003
Wed, 03-24-2004 - 8:32am
Great, hon. Take it easy, do what comes naturally, be your lovely, sweet, feminine self - it's so alluring. You'll be fine.
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Fri, 03-26-2004 - 6:01pm
I have been gone for three days; just got back. MM called me Wed on my cell. We talked on Thursday and today briefly as well. However, I am a little hurt- why? Because on Thursday's call he said something to the effect that he thought I would send him another one of my racy email stories. (very erotic in nature). So, now I feel we are regressing. Back to square one you might say. Maybe he DID test his limitations with that one kiss and that was scary enough for him so he reverts back to his/our old style when it comes to communication. I don't know.... I will not give up on this yet however. I still plan to take it nice and slow and build something. ( which may not be a gret idea either). I will see him tomorrow at hockey... I want to still get together with him alone a third time, I hate to 'lose ground' if he IS willing to test himself again.

Your thoughts?

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Registered: 01-21-2004
Mon, 03-29-2004 - 3:40pm
v. Yeah, it sounds like he did test his limitations. That's just the process for this affair. I'm sorry I didn't respond sooner. I just saw this post. My thoughts are he'll revert back, then he'll get brave. That's what happened with me and OM. But as I stated b4, it was extremely slow. Let him revert back. Don't push him out of his comfort zone...I'll still be checking in on you hon ;o)