Therapist and I slept together part two.

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Therapist and I slept together part two.
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Sat, 06-20-2009 - 11:54am
Thank u for all of your comments. Yes, the relationship was consensual. I am upset because I made a fool of myself. How pathetic! I just had to know the truth about him and now I know. I am mad that he has two or more aps, but worried that they started out like patients like I was. I take responsibility for the A continuing. I care about what he thinks about me. He said that at a minimum we needed to take a break - we could call each other, but not see each other. He then said he doesn't know if we could even be friends. I am so hurt. I wish it would go all away! Thanks for listening. I know it doesn't make much sense.
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Sun, 06-21-2009 - 4:21pm

Okay, I see that you have made a little progress since your first post, because you now acknowledge your part in the A.


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Mon, 06-22-2009 - 10:36am
I totally agree with you.
femaleff2, dont be tempted for revenge.it may not result in what you hope for.
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Mon, 06-22-2009 - 12:35pm

I think some of the responses here (not in this thread but previous ones) are way too harsh towards you (I think I may have read the one deleted here previously - that was one of them). You are the one who was exploited. Just because you had consensual sex doesn't make it "ok" on the therapist's part. That argument is used sometimes when a young girl or boy is victimized - that the sex was "consensual". If she or he is 13 years old and you're 32, it might very well be "consensual" but you as the adult are still taking advantage of a young person's vulnerability. Just as your therapist took advantage of your vulnerability. The laws are in place to prevent that sort of exploitation. Yes it was consensual and it's good that you own that part of it, but it doesn't make his exploitation any less repugnant.

Let go of the stalking and just report him. If you report him, and it becomes known (as it certainly will) other victims of his will probably step forward. Anyone presently involved with him will know they are not the "only ones" and will probably step forward also. You need to shine a light on his behavior, not for revenge, but so he will be stopped from doing this to anyone else.




Edited 6/22/2009 12:37 pm ET by lexione
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Mon, 06-22-2009 - 6:47pm
lexione, You hit the nail on the head, this is so wrong on so many levels. You trusted a man in power who had an ethical oath to help you. What your therapist did was so wrong. You are not his first and will not be his last. He needs to be reported!
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Registered: 06-23-2009
Tue, 06-23-2009 - 3:57am
Its good the he ended it....count your blessings...He is a jerk! Dont forget to report this because he can do this to someone else.


Edited 6/23/2009 4:58 am ET by runner1972