Is there anyone like me?

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Registered: 12-19-2003
Is there anyone like me?
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Sun, 01-11-2004 - 8:41pm
Is there any a**hole out there like me, who f***ed and then fell in love with, their best friend's husband? I am living under a boulder of guilt at this point, and trying to deal, without being completely crushed.

Help!!!!!!!!
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Registered: 04-07-2003
Sun, 01-11-2004 - 11:13pm
Best friend's father. Yes, I am an a**hole. But I love him. What can you say?

"The heart has reasons the head won't understand."

EX

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Mon, 01-12-2004 - 2:00pm
Not exactly the same situation. I have been having an A with my husband's best friend for the last 8 months. I too have let myself fall in love with him.
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Registered: 07-24-2003
Mon, 01-12-2004 - 2:00pm
Not exactly the same situation. I have been having an A with my husband's best friend for the last 8 months. I too have let myself fall in love with him.
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Mon, 01-12-2004 - 5:17pm
Darlin fairlady

Ive read the other replies that you've had and as you can see there are other people out there in your position. Im not one of them but sound so sad I felt I had to reply. I think you need to remember that you're not the only one who took part. It takes 2 to tango and it certainly isnt all your fault. I know that its easy to blame yourself but don't let it crush you. You don't say if you've spoken to him about it. Was it just a one night thing or a lnnger affair. If it was the latter then you must be connected enough to talk about it, even if you can't tell him the way that you feel, maybe just finding out how he's dealing with it will help you. I read a poem once with the line "my heart led my head astray" Im sure you can relate to that right now.

Take care and keep in touchxxxx
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Registered: 12-19-2003
Mon, 01-12-2004 - 8:37pm
Thank you so much for your caring response. We had been together over 6 months and we have talked about the situation many times. My guilt was always there, it is just much heavier now that my H discovered the A, and I am having to face the music. The really sad thing is, I am more upset with myself for doing this to my friend than I am for doing this to my H. I feel like such a low-life and every day it gets more and more difficult to remain friends with her because of the guilt. H is trying to work things out with me, but as we were all friends, he will no longer talk to MM, and that will make things difficult as time goes on. I have made such a mess of everything. AND the guilt of having done this to someone I cared about is overwhelming. So far, every day gets worse, not better, but I am trying to hang in there. MM and I are still friends, but everything has changed since H found out, and part of my guilt is from not being able to let go of him, because I love him so very much.