Is there a line?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-25-2003
Is there a line?
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Fri, 12-19-2003 - 10:03am
I was reading a post earlier about "crossing the line" and it brought up a question I've had lately. I have spent the last two weeks basically making out with my MM any chance we've had. I have said since the beginning that I will not sleep with him (although my resolve on that seems to be dwindling rapidly), because I just can't "cross that line". Here are my questions though: Haven't I already crossed a line I should never have crossed? Wouldn't my H be completely hurt and mad about what I've done already? Would sleeping with MM really be all that much worse than the cheating I've already done? Like it or not, I think I need to officially admit to myself that I'm having an affair. I kind of feel like if I admit that though, then there may be no turning back and no more saying "No, we can't cross that line".

What are your thoughts? Anybody else out there not willing to sleep with their MM/OM, but yet you still have physical contact (kissing, touching, fantasizing)? Anybody out there go through the "No we won't go there", but then found yourself there anyway?

By the way - I'm so glad this board is here! Talk about a life saver!

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-30-2003
Fri, 12-19-2003 - 10:33am
YAY to the board!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-21-2003
Fri, 12-19-2003 - 10:41am
Here's my take on your situation. Your H is going to be hurt no matter what. Sleeping with MM would probably be a little more damaging. In my opinion you are having an A. Your married and you are doing something with another man that your H wouldn't be happy about. Love affair, emotional affair..... As far as me I tried not to cross the line after kissing. I didn't last very long. Maybe about 3 seconds!!!! I have no self control when it comes to MM!!!!!! Good Luck.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-17-2003
Fri, 12-19-2003 - 12:28pm
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Edited 3/10/2004 5:08 pm ET ET by geek_chic