Is there a meaning behind it?
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Is there a meaning behind it?
| Mon, 08-25-2008 - 1:39pm |
Just throwing something out here for discussion I guess.
| Mon, 08-25-2008 - 1:39pm |
Just throwing something out here for discussion I guess.
It could either mean "I don't want to be blamed....or hauled into D court" or it could mean "You don't mean that much to me - I hope you're not getting ahead of yourself". Or, the third and final option: "Please tell me it really is because of me because I'm really insecure."
All in all, I think its a pretty stupid thing to say. Because either of the first two meaning means that the one who said it is basically saying "I'm not at the point that I think you're at."And the third, well, just ask "Why are you getting a D?" If you want to say that, just say it. I'm never one for being ambiguous and if you're ambiguous with me I'll beat you with a stick till you tell me which way you meant it. Just ask BF.
BF never said that to me when I told him, and I never said it to him when he told me. Because realistically, we both knew it was coming. If one of you in the A doesn't see that as a likely outcome, then I agree, why are you in the A? And why do you think AP is in the A? Unless you already agreed it isn't a likely outcome, in which case you certainly wouldn't ask anyway since you should already know the answer.
So yes, there is a meaning behind it. One of a few, in fact. So the answer to the question "You're not getting a D because of me, are you?" should always be "Why do you ask, sweet pea?"
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Love this btdt!
If I had to hazard a guess from my EAP's reaction to when I tell him that I will eventually need to make a decision about what I need to do about my M, stay or go, is that he does not want to be the cause of me being hurt.
Hi, tbcrazy2,
I'd love to answer your question because I say this to my AP all of the time! What I mean when I say, "I don't want to be the cause of your divorce" is exactly what it says. I want him to leave his marriage because he's unhappy... not because of me.
Thank you to all for replying.