Is there no place SAFE for us!!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 05-31-2003
Is there no place SAFE for us!!!!!!!!!
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Mon, 01-19-2004 - 12:32pm
I'm so angry I could just spit! Just when you think you have a safe place like HooksRoom to post it gets infiltrated by that evil board. I'm so tired of not being able to trust anybody!

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Registered: 12-31-2003
Thu, 01-22-2004 - 7:30pm
Hi SB,

Yes, that does answer my question. Do you think one of the reasons why you entered into an affair was due to your H's A? Even though he has accused you of having A's long before you even started one, did he accuse you of it before he was having one? Is he still having an A that you know of?

Thanks,

Pen

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Registered: 01-12-2004
Thu, 01-22-2004 - 10:11pm
My my so diplomatic!

I wonder what larger group you belonged to Hmmmmmmmmmmmm

Now THAT departure was fun to watch!

I always enjoy watching people turn on their own!

Techono

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Thu, 01-22-2004 - 11:22pm
I can honestly say I did not enter into this A because of his, I did it because my MM is someone I wanted to be with, I did it because I am unhappy in my M. My H did not start accusing me until after his A. AS far as if he is still having one I really can't say for sure. He took a job where he is gone from home for 6 weeks at a time and then home for 2. So he could very well be, if he is I don't tink that it would bother me now because I am making plans to end our M due to not feeling like I should for him, it has nothing to do with being in an A, but more about making myself happy.

Later SB

 Seeburg    

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Registered: 01-21-2004
Fri, 01-23-2004 - 10:41am

hey aims -- thanks for the congrats!

CL-Gurlfriend50

Co-CL of My Affair Support Board

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 01-23-2004 - 11:44am
LOL...You should've been more attentive, Dreams. Nothing lost by leaving that place..nothing at all.
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Fri, 01-23-2004 - 5:59pm
Aims.. you are so right! It doesn't have to be this way! I too have found a great group of trustworthy people to share my thoughts and feelings about my personal life with... I am thankful for those men and women each day for being so wonderful.

From what I have seen on this board, my experiences and what I have heard, is that this board and its memebers seems to cycle... many of the people do build deeper friendships through similar experiences or just connect. They email or even meet off line. The important thing is trust. You just have to be on your toes! Just like in any other area of your life. If you are in an EMA, or thinking about it, there is generally no one else to discuss that with.. and online we create a feeling of anonimity that feels "safe". We all wanted and needed that.. esp in the beginning when you are looking for help, direction, answers, etc. We all wanted to find someone who understood and "walked a mile in our shoes".... You just have to remember to be certain you are talking with someone trustworthy. This is public... so anything you post here is free game to millions...I shared too much in the past.. and yes, I threw some "red herrings" out too, I know who I said what to and who I can trust and who I cannot.. so what has been said about me elsewhere is not 100% true.. that is how you want to keep it.

For those of you who remember me.... My MM is still fabulous and things are going well! I am still working on the "balance" of it all, and I have gotten much better at that. I am on the "high" of the rollercoaster now and have been for the longest extended time since this started. It feels good. I still think it's "worth it"...we were made for each other, no question. The timing of us finding each other just sucks. We have no future: only today; maybe tomorrow too. But we are making the most of and cherish each today and look forward to however many tomorrows we may have, with a smile!

Best of luck to you all....

Forty

"The heart has its reasons that reason knows not."



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Registered: 12-31-2003
Fri, 01-23-2004 - 7:06pm
Hi SB,

Thanks for your info. I think it is great that you are planning to move on and end your M if you are not happy. At the same time, I am sorry you are not happy in your M. I am happily M now, but I don't scoff at the idea of D if things get real real bad.

I apologize up front if I ask questions you have already answered on this post...how is the situation with MM and his W? Are they happily M? Even though you want to be with MM, do you ever wish you had more?

Pen

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Fri, 01-23-2004 - 11:01pm
HI pens

As far as my MM and his R with his W goes, I know that he is not in love with her, they are not as close as some married couples. And to answer your question yes i do want more at times but I will never ask for more

later SB

 Seeburg    

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