Things are out of control

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Registered: 02-15-2009
Things are out of control
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Fri, 03-20-2009 - 8:31pm

I have been reading here for weeks.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-22-2006
Fri, 03-20-2009 - 8:49pm
It is possible to fall in love with all three of them, but it might that it is just an attempt to fill the emotional void from your M? what are you looking for, sex or more?
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Registered: 08-24-2008
Fri, 03-20-2009 - 9:03pm

Hi Gym and welcome. I think now is a great time to find a therapist or someone to talk to to sort this mess out. A neutral person that is. Only you can know what is missing or what you are feeling deep down. Most companies have access to help if asked and I am sure it would be confidential. Maybe then things can be sorted out for you and you can go from there.

Now as for the AP,s, you are only seeing the fun good side of them. I remember when I saw the bad of my exAP, all I could do was sit there in shock. He was much worse than I could have imagined. I am not sure what is wrong with your M, or your DH but you are not the first to have feelings change for him. If one of the AP's found out about there is three of them, you don't have any idea how they could react. Reaction can include telling your DH or worse. There is actually a thread on EAS called D-days that makes my point all to well.

It is possible for the single AP that if you were to become single, he could bolt. If you read threads on here, EAS, or marriage boards, that is not uncommon. He is having fun without being tied town. As for the 2 married AP's again read on honey. Most actually don't go through with leaving their M's for whatever reason. That is especially true where young children are concerned. You really are playing with fire and you very well could be burned. I would hate to see that happen to you.

Now back to you:). Do you think you and DH could possibly work things out with outside help of sorts? If things are done for with DH, the kindest thing you could do is let him find someone who will love him. We all deserved to be loved and happy. That includes you, Gym.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-19-2008
Fri, 03-20-2009 - 9:09pm
How do you find time to talk to all 3 of them, see them, and be in your marriage. How do you seperate them.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2009
Fri, 03-20-2009 - 9:52pm
Thank you for thoughts.
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Registered: 02-15-2009
Fri, 03-20-2009 - 9:59pm
Since I don't see all of them everyday or week it makes it not very difficult.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-19-2008
Fri, 03-20-2009 - 10:05pm
Be careful, i hate to see you get hurt.its a very dangerous game. Do they know about each other, then your husband.
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Registered: 02-15-2009
Fri, 03-20-2009 - 10:14pm

They all know about my husband, but they don't know of each other.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-24-2008
Fri, 03-20-2009 - 10:49pm
You are welcome. Everyone on here is pretty nice. You might hear from Clarity too. If you do, heed her words. She tells it like it is. Please do keep on writing.
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Registered: 09-19-2008
Fri, 03-20-2009 - 11:04pm
i'm in no position to say what is right or wrong, whether 3 AP are right or not. i'm just saying again be careful, and please don't let any of their paths cross. i guess you could get burned. it could be disasterous for you, and possibly your husband. if you are having ic, use protection. good luck.