Think I blew it....need fast help!
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Think I blew it....need fast help!
| Mon, 03-29-2004 - 10:02pm |
ohhhh gosh....I think I have messed things up between OM and me. He went on vacation with family, and he and I both know it drives me crazy when he does, we even kidded about it and how I get upset and pout and get mad before he left. Well, he leaves and no communication for 3 days, I am PMSing and get upset and send nasty messages to him about what he is doing with W, etc...still did not hear anything. (Yes this is odd, we talk 3 to 4 times a day, even at least once a day when on vacations) Well after the anger the upset sets in and I start leaving crazy VMs about how sorry I was and I am worried cause I have not heard anything from him..
He gets back and sends me three TMs...one saying he is ok and that he did not go where he said he was, and that he would tell me all about it. Then, one saying he has strong concerns about him and I and the 3rd was about how angry and hateful I sounded in the messages and he was sorry he upset me...
What do I do????????????? I have already sent an email apologizing for my behavior, etc.. I just hope this is not the end of it.
Any suggestions?????? and fast....we will talk ASAP in the morning.
thanks!!!!

First, take a deep breath and calm down! I would be honest with him - that you were pms'ing and emotional; I don't know if alot of guys understand the whole pms thing, not having gone through it themselves plus the fact that women tend to be more emotional anyway. He may not even understand - just KISS (keep it simple sweetie), the facts (without alot of details and over-explaining) and apologize again, admit you were wrong, then drop it for now. There, now you can ask him where he went, did he enjoy some time away, etc.
Another time (when not pms'ing, lol), you might want to bring it up again - before he goes away. Maybe you could ask him if he has any suggestions that would help you through your time apart. And, you can help yourself by making sure you are busy (with friends, family, whatever) while he's away...because it's true (at least for me) that the busier you are the less time there is to think and worry and over-analyze.
Secret - you don't know what is happening while he's away, and no matter - whatever he has with W is between them and is seperate from what is between you and he. Completely different.
Sorry I don't have more than a bit of tough love for you. Relax and enjoy what you have!
Meow