for those having an EMA

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for those having an EMA
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Mon, 10-13-2003 - 1:42pm
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Edited 9/20/2004 2:29 pm ET ET by seansluv
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Mon, 10-13-2003 - 1:57pm
Oh, I know definately who I want to be with more. MM! My marriage was really bad before we even met. I doubt that I loved my H even we when got married. What I struggle with is my "family". My H isn't abusive in any way. I just fell out of love somewhere along the way. I really didn't think my H loved me either. He never shows it and we live basically seperate lives. Now that I've told H that I want a divorce his whole demeanor has changed. he says he loved me and can't live with out me. It seems very "safe" to stay with a sure thing. I'm SO confused. We start marriage counseling this week. I don't think it will work but I'll try anything. It's not helping that me and MM are going away for the weekend and that's all I can think about. Do you love your H? It's hard when someone gives you something that knowone else can.
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Mon, 10-13-2003 - 2:04pm
I go back and forth ... but with two men (who both live with me at this time) the person I want to be with the most is MYSELF! Oh I long and love my alone time these days. LOL!
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Mon, 10-13-2003 - 2:13pm
i love dh because he provides safety, stability, a nice house, nice cars, and is a good father (though needs improvement) and is always looking to better himself. but he doesn't always make me feel loved...although he says i'm pretty, or he loves me. his actions aren't always the same.

an example..last week my eyes were bothering me and i had to go to the eye doc. to make a long story short..he had to change his whole itinerary on his off day to bring my eye glasses to my office (he reminded me of the inconvience it was for him). my office is only 20 minutes away from the house. but i felt like he was sooo cold to me. had no sympathy that my eyes were bothering me. maybe it's just the libra in him that has a hard time having sympathy for people. but it's like he just doesn't know what to say to me. he always just thinks of himself.

my om on the otherhand..always says the right things to me. really comforting. much like the taurus of my father...a gentle and caring man.

i truly believe the zodiac has a lot to say about a person. it's just amazing how true it is when it comes to these two men.

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Mon, 10-13-2003 - 5:26pm
Absolutely. In the beginning of the EMA, I made a commitment to myself and to MM that I wouldn't "compare" MM and DH. However, DH fulfills me in ways MM does not, and vice versa. So naturally, there are days when I have fantasies of running off with MM and days when I can't imagine leaving DH. I honestly love each of them and would not be able to make a rational decision if I were asked at this point in time to choose between them.

And I had to chuckle at your second post, because my DH is a Libra, and he sounds very similar to your H. My MM, on the other hand, is a Pisces like myself, so when the two of us are together it's sickeningly romantic and probably very unrealistic. He does, like your MM< knoiw exactly what to say and do, though!!

 

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Tue, 10-14-2003 - 8:06am
My DH is a libra too. You're right, it must be a zodiac thing. H is not very sympathetic when I am feeling under the weather too. Like your H, he acts like doing extra to take care of me is a hassle. I am a pisces and MM is a virgo. Our connection is so intense that its almost like we can 'hear' what each other is thinking. I've read that the pisces/virgo relationship runs very deep. I'd have to agree with that. I've also read that the pisces/libra relationship can work, both signs are compatable, but I've found that it is nothing compared to my feelings for MM.
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Tue, 10-14-2003 - 1:13pm
well i am a virgo, and om is a taurus, dh is a libra.

when i was sooo in love with dh i thought..what the heck does the zodiac know saying we aren't compatible. well i have learned. lol.

virgo and taurus are compatible. my parents are virgo and taurus and they had (my father has passed away) a great connection. he knew how to show his love and was very creative.

i think the biggest shocker om has given me is to tell me recently that about 6 months ago he came up with his own custom design of a ring he wants to give me..from the sounds of it it's an engagement or wedding ring. i wouldn't dare give away his design, but it just made my heart melt. that's about when i realized how much he cared for me.