for those involved with a boss

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for those involved with a boss
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Thu, 10-16-2003 - 1:15pm
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Edited 9/20/2004 2:49 pm ET ET by seansluv
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Thu, 10-16-2003 - 1:39pm
That's an easy one. No hugging, flirting, or doing anything suspicious at work. End of story. We are adults, not children, right? We can control ourselves.

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Thu, 10-16-2003 - 2:31pm
I have a flirtatious personality, so I tend to flirt with everybody, so does MM. We both flirt with everybody. However, that said, I think we do a horrible job at work. We both keep our office doors closed during the day, for other reasons. We have hugged & kissed behind those closed doors before. We both know we shouldn't and we do try not to for extended periods. We can go a few days w/o the behind closed doors sneaking.

All of the above said, before we embarked on our A, we spent a lot of time working together alone behind closed doors and nothing ever happened. So, one could say we were doing something when we were really doing NOTHING. Since the A started we have both made an effort to keep our doors open more often and not make it look like something could be going on. I told MM that it looked like an A more before than now, so if people want to talk, that talk would have started about a year ago, now we are living up to their suspicions, they just don't know it. They have suspected forever, but they never really knew. Now what they have suspected is true. That's just to say if they ever suspected. I never suspected, but .... you know.

Laugh Smiles

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Registered: 04-07-2003
Thu, 10-16-2003 - 3:26pm
Funny this should come up now....We just came back from an hour and a half lunch and I could feel all eyes on us when we returned. Not a good thing. His secretary is a friend of mine and H so we have to be very careful around her and I am related to 2 others in the office. We have worked together for almost 9 years and some of the people are newer and know that we are good friends. I have to admit it is very hard to keep our hands off of each other but we try to control ourselves.
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Registered: 09-09-2003
Thu, 10-16-2003 - 3:30pm
Sparkles,

Isn't it also fun? MM & I rarely go to lunch alone together since our A started. We could really get into trouble that way. I often tell him that we need a chaperone when in situations like that. Although I'm sure that my opinion might change on the next out of town trip we would HAVE to take together. We've only had one together alone and that was before the A. Ever since, we ALWAYS take someone else so that way we are forcing ourselves to behave. At least for now.

Laugh Smiles

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Registered: 04-07-2003
Thu, 10-16-2003 - 4:03pm
LOL, a chaperone! I know what you mean about getting into trouble! There were 2 people in the restaurant we went to, 1 that he knew and my H's cousin. We can't go anywhere without one of us knowing someone so I guess we could say we have chaperones everytime we go out, LOL. Of course no one knows what we are saying to each other.... On that note he told me that today is his anniversary. Talk about killing the moment. I really don't feel that bad about it but he said he couldn't do anything with me because he didn't want to ruin tonight. I am taking it that he doesn't want to have fun with me then go to his W and be thinking about me.

What are you waiting for, take that trip together!

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Thu, 10-16-2003 - 4:13pm
We're waiting for the assignment to take the trip together. See, sometimes when he HAS to go out of town, I have to take over some of his duties. Like tomorrow, he's going out of town and I have to attend meetings in his place.

I'm not in a hurry. I'm just enjoying each moment we have as they come. I've decided not to force it and not to fight it, but to be cautious in the process as well.

Laugh Smiles

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 10-16-2003 - 10:39pm
working together is SOOOOOOOOOOO hard! Imagine getting to see your MM EVERY day and having to ACT like there is NOTHING there! :( It's SO hard and it takes a little time to get reaquianted to being together when we finally DO get alone!

All you working with your MM - IMAGINE the W being apart of the mix too!!!! makes things a million times worse! :(

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Registered: 08-14-2003
Fri, 10-17-2003 - 9:33am
Simple! We don't. MM and I are physical outside of the office only. There's too much risk involved for both of us to play with fire. It's really not that difficult because we've never done it any other way!

 

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