for those in LDR's... a question

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Registered: 01-25-2004
for those in LDR's... a question
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Wed, 01-28-2004 - 9:47am
I am just curious how any of you who go through long periods of time, lets say 4-6 months, without seeing your lover, keep sane during that time, how do you not drive yourself crazy thinking and longing and aching for him 24/7? This doesnt apply to me as I see my lover maybe once every two weeks, but I am curious how you who do have to deal with that amount of time apart handle it.

Mama

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Registered: 01-26-2004
Wed, 01-28-2004 - 10:13am
It is so hard, but I have a couple of friends that know about my situation that help me every day. That and knowing that my MM feels the same and I know that when I am thinking of him, he is also thinking about me in that same way. That is a very comforting feeling....
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Registered: 01-25-2004
Wed, 01-28-2004 - 10:38am
I am SURE he thinks of you as many times as you do of him.

Mama

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Wed, 01-28-2004 - 6:03pm
It was especially difficult for me in the beginning, but I asked for his support which was always there. Also, he expresses the same feelings towards me that I feel about being apart. We keep in touch every week either thru e-mail or by phone. I have plenty to keep me busy, but he is always on my mind, as I am on his and I know this. We have always been in sync about everything and if there is something that bothers me, I can talk to him (though I may have to wait) and not be able to talk to him right when I want to but I have learned to cope and I would never give this up.
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Registered: 10-28-2003
Thu, 01-29-2004 - 8:00am
In only the begining, for me it is every day hard, but you learn to accept it, slowly simply because you have no choice. He has taught me, that there are constant reminders every day in our lives, little things, that make us think of each other when we are not together. He believes these reminders are here to make us think of the other and to feel they we are always together. Does that make sense??? I have certainly one of the LDA on the board as I have yet to find one as LD as ours, but even though I would give a million to see him, he is always here for me, more than anyone I see, even on a daily basis, and that, dear Sherlock, I am not ready to give up even because of the distance that hurts sooooooo!!!

Mitzy

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 01-29-2004 - 10:12am
Mitzy, mine is very LD also. Try half way across the country. Have only seen each other two times in the last two years. How does your compare?
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Registered: 10-28-2003
Thu, 01-29-2004 - 2:30pm
LOL, love the challenge...

Distance is farther.. But will never tell

openly here how far!!

Relation over a year.

We have met for a total of 20 hours alone

in that time. I do believe you and I have

mentioned this before with LDA..

Love the humour, and it made me smile..

Don't you get jealous when you read the

others who complain that it has been a few days,

weeks, or even months... WE talk years!!!

Mitz