For those men out there I have a ??

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For those men out there I have a ??
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Thu, 04-15-2004 - 7:08pm


OK here goes, those of you who are men in an EMA.... I guess I am trying to figure out what my MM really feels about me. Here is our situation.

We met 7 mos ago and work together. Although not directly anymore. He ended it after about 6 weeks because he said I was too close (working, my son and his son are best friends), he said he was a loving person and could see himself getting too invovled, and there was an incident where I said something to him (under the influence of alcohol) that he thought his W might have heard, thought I was not being careful enough. ANyway after about another 6 weeks of him still flirting I called him on the carpet about it and he said he missed me. We got back together but he said we had to be more discreet.

Ok well he also said that night "I have deep feelings for you, deeper than you probably even realize" His eyes got teary and red and we hugged. He has also said in a light hearted tone "As much as I love you, no you can't do that" regarding work.

He has also told me a love song reminds him of me. He doesn't keep in touch as much as I have seen you men on here do, I usually have to initiate everything. He has a very demanding and high powered job so I understand he is so busy he can't always think to call me although he has. He has told me he and his wife have a good relationship (when we were breaking up back in Dec) but she isn't affectionate, not with him or their children, and she isn't a sexual person.

Do you think the guy might actually have feelings for me (I know based on this little info). I mean he is very affectionate with me and when we are together he is just so intimate. I just want to know a males perspective on this!

Thanks

deedee

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Thu, 04-15-2004 - 7:17pm
Also I should add he also felt guilty last time. I guess he has gotten over that but I am still paranoid he will all of a sudden feel guilty. We both agreed when we got back together we wouldn't split up our families.

What do you think? LOL

deedee

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Registered: 01-23-2004
Thu, 04-15-2004 - 7:24pm
I am not a male but I am going through very similar thing you are. I think he does have feelings for you, probably quite deep but also has for his wife. So just enjoy him, what he can give you and accept it won't be any more and accept that his wife will be #1. You are the other woman who is making him feel great sexually and emotions have crept into it whether he likes it or not. Good luck!

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Thu, 04-15-2004 - 9:30pm
Thanks dg

That is what I was thinking. I just wonder about this "deep feeling" statement. I was shocked when he told me that, it was the night we got back together. Since then he said the "as much as I love you....." statement. He also said he had deep feelings for his wife and always will. He didnt' say love although I told he before that I loved my husband. Just wondering if that is HIS way of saying love since he said the same thing about his wife. I could be just overthinking this. It just has bugged me.

Thought some men might know what he means LOL

deedee

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Fri, 04-16-2004 - 8:31am


No thoughts from the guys?? :(