My first A started the way yours is going. There was a 24 year age difference and we saw each other only sporadically when we could manage it. I was married with no real intention of leaving my marriage and he was newly divorced. He professed love for me very very early on. And yes, it did change things. In my mind, I wasn't leaving my marriage but he started to pressure me to do so. To keep the status quo (I enjoyed the attention and didn't want to let it go), I told him I would leave. Things did eventually come to a head and the relationship ended.
I guess my advice from my experience would be that if you want to continue in the A for the enjoyment you are getting out of it, then be very open with your AP about your intentions. Do not tell him you love him too just to make it easier and don't get sucked into the vortex of lies that I did.
I can't comment on whether or not he meant his professions of love, maybe he did or maybe he used it as a way to get over the "weird hump".
My first A started the way yours is going. There was a 24 year age difference and we saw each other only sporadically when we could manage it. I was married with no real intention of leaving my marriage and he was newly divorced. He professed love for me very very early on. And yes, it did change things. In my mind, I wasn't leaving my marriage but he started to pressure me to do so. To keep the status quo (I enjoyed the attention and didn't want to let it go), I told him I would leave. Things did eventually come to a head and the relationship ended.
I guess my advice from my experience would be that if you want to continue in the A for the enjoyment you are getting out of it, then be very open with your AP about your intentions. Do not tell him you love him too just to make it easier and don't get sucked into the vortex of lies that I did.
I can't comment on whether or not he meant his professions of love, maybe he did or maybe he used it as a way to get over the "weird hump".