? for those who've BTDT

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-07-2009
? for those who've BTDT
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Tue, 07-07-2009 - 9:22am

I have just recently began an affair.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-2009
Tue, 07-07-2009 - 9:33am
Sorry to bust your bubble but, I love you do not mean Sh*& to these
“"Truer words were never spoken -" Ah, but true words leave hearts broken! Truth is only for the wise - Lovers ought to stick to lies”

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-05-2007
Tue, 07-07-2009 - 11:50am

My first A started the way yours is going. There was a 24 year age difference and we saw each other only sporadically when we could manage it. I was married with no real intention of leaving my marriage and he was newly divorced. He professed love for me very very early on. And yes, it did change things. In my mind, I wasn't leaving my marriage but he started to pressure me to do so. To keep the status quo (I enjoyed the attention and didn't want to let it go), I told him I would leave. Things did eventually come to a head and the relationship ended.

I guess my advice from my experience would be that if you want to continue in the A for the enjoyment you are getting out of it, then be very open with your AP about your intentions. Do not tell him you love him too just to make it easier and don't get sucked into the vortex of lies that I did.

I can't comment on whether or not he meant his professions of love, maybe he did or maybe he used it as a way to get over the "weird hump".

~Shadowz
~Shadowz